Booted and Bound

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  • Health & Fitness as a Dynamic

    Health & Fitness as a Dynamic

    “Do something today that your future self will thank you for.“ – Sean Patrick Flanery

    What does it mean to mix health and fitness with a BDSM dynamic to drive towards your desired outcomes? As I explore my own interests with BDSM and health & fitness, I consider this question and the potential to bring these two together in interesting ways.  Both interests stand on their own, but the intersection of BDSM and health & fitness create unique opportunities for shared accountability.  Both my Dom and I are quite interested in health & fitness and we have each made it a goal to keep ourselves fit.  As we explore our emerging Dom/sub dynamic, health & fitness continues to be a key part of the dynamic we are working towards.  We will explore this further and share where we are today, and where we see this headed in the future.

    From a sub perspective, I want to be fit, I want to be healthy, and I want to be held accountable for achieving those desired outcomes.  During our goal defining talks, we discussed our shared interest in improving our health & fitness for each other.  My Dom is aware of His boy’s athletic nature, and is very supportive of his boy’s desire to grow physically stronger and more athletic for Him.  He is aware that His boy doesn’t desire to be a bodybuilder, but rather an athletic and muscular boy that maintains fitness as a lifestyle.  Thankfully, this is something that we share in common, but reconciling our differences and understanding our commonalities was the first step in creating our emerging D/s dynamic.

    I am equally energized by seeing my Dom succeed, and for Him to pursue His personal health and fitness goals.  While it can be challenging for a sub to hold a Dom accountable – we made His goals a central part of our overall dynamic.  His boy assists Him with His measures, His diet tracking, and also ensuring that Sir has workout plans that are both effective and tuned to His specific liking.  

    To make our health & fitness BDSM dynamic take shape, we have established measurement protocols that allow for continuous monitoring and analysis of our progress towards our approved health & fitness goals.  On the first of each month, we go through the process of collecting measures specific to our established goals, and then His boy compiles this information and presents it to Sir as part of a health & fitness accountability session.

    What does it look like to then take action on this measurement info?  You can view Sir Zuegi’s monthly measure collection, and see how He is progressing towards His defined goals.  And, you can view boy s37’s monthly measure collection, and see how he is progressing towards his defined goals.  The second step in creating this dynamic was for His boy to collect this data, organize it, and make it visible to Sir.  This is a service that this boy provides and one that Sir Zuegi expects.  Beyond that, boy s37 maintains a health & fitness jockboy diary blog that chronicles his day to day actions to stay accountable for required outcomes.

    The final step in creating our health & fitness dynamic is maintaining on-going lasting accountability.  This is a work in progress, but a scene document has been drafted to document this and explore what that might look like.  This boy maintains the data and analysis for Sir so that He can keep His leather household accountable for His approved and expected outcomes.  In addition, His boy can seek ways that he can assist Sir with achieving these outcomes by creating more opportunities.  Examples of this are preparing clean meals, writing workout plans, and maintaining the gym space.

    We are in the early stages of establishing this dynamic, but we both remain very excited about where we are and where we see this going.  Staying true to the mission of this blog, we will publish more info on our progress and details about what works and what doesn’t.  Starting in early February 2025, boy s37 will publish outcomes each month about how Sir Zuegi and His boy are progressing towards defined health and fitness goal targets.  The purpose of these public posts is to create exposure to help us stay motivated and accountable.

    Do you use BDSM as an accountability dynamic for health and fitness goals, and if so, what has your experience been?  What has worked, and what hasn’t worked? 

  • Being of Service

    Being of Service

    The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. – Mahatma Gandhi

    In the second half of 2024, my Dom and I started the process of taking our relationship in a new direction.  We decided to move towards a Dom/sub dynamic and to fully embrace the leathermen BDSM lifestyle. And with that, we took to educating ourselves and learning more about what that might look like.

    Few resources out there approach the effort of adapting an existing relationship with D/s. The more we read and learned about protocols and service, the more complex the effort began to look and feel. When you have been with someone for many years, norms that define your relationship naturally develop over time.  In our case, my Dom does many of the day to day chores around the house. However, I do much of our personal finances as well as many handyman type things.  Together we are also property managers, and so we are effectively in business together. Much of the control and dynamic in our relationship formed based on our individual skills and personalities. But, we both desire changing some of that. 

    I wanted something that looked different, and through much discussion, Sir Zuegi desired more control over us and over our household. I desperately want and feel the need to relinquish control to develop a stronger attachment to my leatherboy/sub identity and to Him. But as they say, wanting something and planning for it are two different things.

    We are still in the middle of this process, and I discuss with my Dom my desire to feel I am in more service to Him on a regular basis. Recently, for my birthday, I asked my Dom for a service I could give Him as my birthday gift. He established that His boy should make the bed for Him daily. I am now a month into providing this service to Him, and this very mundane thing I do for Him now feels very deep and personal and I look forward to doing this for Him every day.  And, as I have recently discovered, I can continue doing this for Him when we travel by making sure our hotel bed is made.  It is a simple thing, but with important symbolism.

    I want to serve Him more, and I do struggle with how to approach that and what specifically I can do for Him. I have to remind myself that this dynamic change is still new and that it is better to give it time and allow our relationship to redevelop based on newly established norms. We continue to communicate about this very often.  I am trying to balance my service need with better mindset focus, so that I regularly reflect on what I do for Him now. For example, my remaining locked in chastity for Him is an important way for me to serve Him based on His desire to have me locked. Also, I focus on my diet and workouts so that my physical fitness level better pleases Him. It is sometimes easy to forget what you are doing in favor of always wanting more. 

    We will continue to work on this in 2025, and I look forward to sharing with all of you how our D/s dynamic evolves over time. Have you been through the development of a D/s dynamic in your relationship?  If so, what did you learn along the way?  Leave a comment, we’d love to hear from you.

  • Planning for Growth

    Planning for Growth

    “You must do things that you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

    In a time not so far away, I would’ve only dreamt of living in a full-time 24×7 D/s dynamic.  But, with courage, the power of communication, and goal setting and planning, we are on our way to achieving just that.

    I have always been a somewhat goal oriented person.  But, there is a catch – deep down – I want to make that achievement for someone else.  I want to be accepted and rewarded for good behavior and corrected and disciplined when I veer off.  I want to improve for my Sir, and improve in areas that will please Him most.  I want to feel His support and I want to submit to Him for my failings so that I am fully accountable to Him.  I want to be there for Him in ways that He needs me to be so that I am part of His growth and development.  Together, I want us to achieve great things and to grow together.

    In late 2024, we set out to define goals to further our pursuit of BDSM and to achieve greater health and wellness.  As much as I’d like to just be assigned goals and told what I will achieve, there is a practical aspect required to truly implement a healthy 24×7 D/s dynamic.  Therefore, we approached this in a much more collaborative way.  Over the course of several sessions, we drafted and iterated on a set of goals that we felt could be achieved and that would further our growth.  What made this possible was open and transparent communication, and the willingness to be open with each other about what we want for ourselves as well as for each other.

    To anchor our goal setting process in BDSM, each goal and/or goal change must be presented and approved by Sir.  This gives Sir ultimate authority and control over what His boy is focused on.  We completed this process, and Sir has approved each of the following goals:

    Leather Lifestyle Goals:

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy and I will work to implement leather lifestyle and BDSM principles to support our growth as individuals and as life partners.  I will work to grow in my role as Dom, and my boy s37 will work to grow in his role as my collared sub.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy and I will create and maintain a contract and set of leathermen household protocols to live by.  I expect My boy to enter a service contract with me and follow my required protocols.

     [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy and I will attend leather and BDSM oriented community events.  I expect my boy to demonstrate respect and to represent us well at all events I allow him to attend.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy will practice leather care in his role as my bootblack.  I expect him to be learning and practicing to ensure proper care of all of our leather household gear.

    Learning Goals:

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] We will each be learning new BDSM techniques to further our growth and development.  This will include books, videos and hands-on training classes and seminars.  I expect my boy to regularly share his  learnings, findings and experiences.

    Health & Fitness Goals:

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 22-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will develop a physique that is pleasing to me and that aligns with an athletic and muscular build with a targeted body fat percentage of 10-15%, a chest measure of 40”, bicep measures of 14”, a shoulder measure of 46” and thigh measures of 24”.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will develop and maintain a rock solid core with a chiseled and visible set of abs that’s pleasing to me.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will develop and maintain excellent cardiovascular health and endurance so that he performs well for all of my required training.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will track and maintain our fitness progress through body measurements and regular performance tracking and make this info available for greater accountability.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will be held responsible for delivering measurable progress towards his health & fitness goals as well as towards mine.  I expect my boy to assist me in whatever ways necessary to ensure we are both delivering measurable results that satisfy me.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] I will build a more muscular physique and eat a balanced diet to maintain good health and physical form. A measurable goal of a 35 in waist, a 38″ belly and a targeted body fat percentage of 20%.

    Community Goals:

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] I expect my boy to volunteer for one or more leather/BDSM organizations as a means to give back to the community.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] I expect my boy to maintain a public facing blog that supports writings around my goals for him, and other topics of interest that I assign and approve for him.

    I would encourage anyone into BDSM to define goals and doing so collaboratively in a relationship makes a lot of sense.  You can add a D/s aspect by layering in protocols for goal approval, goal review and goal progress checks.  Set achievable goals, but also some that will push you and drive you towards growth. 

    The purpose of this blog is to showcase writings about goal progress and achievements throughout the year as required by Sir’s approved community goal for his boy.  Stay tuned for progress updates as well as info on goal progress and challenges as we progress through the year.

    Do you have goals as part of your BDSM dynamic?  If so, leave a comment below and share any recommendations you have on how to incorporate goals and manage to them as part of a kink dynamic.

  • Start of a New Year

    Start of a New Year

    “Your life is controlled by what you focus on.“

    In August of 2024, Sir Zeugi and His boy s37 sat down for what at the time seemed a very challenging conversation – “how do we incorporate BDSM into our relationship as a means to grow?”

    Neither Sir nor I were new to kink, and in fact we had both been into kink for most of our adult lives.  However, life got busy, we both treated it as a part-time endeavor,  and we let ourselves fall into a vanilla rut.  Easy to let happen, and we knew it was time to make some changes.

    Throughout the rest of 2024, we both sought new learning through books, blogs, podcasts and local leather and kink events.  Today, we are in route to establishing a full-time 24×7 Dom/sub dynamic based on BDSM and leathermen norms.  It has been quite a journey, and both of us are dedicated to expanding our relationship and furthering our experience through BDSM practices.

    In December of 2024, my Dom, Sir Zuegi, approved the creation of this blog as part of a goal setting ritual.  The goal He approved is:

    I expect my boy to maintain a public facing blog that supports writings around my goals for him, and other topics of interest that I assign and approve for him.

    And with that, this blog, Booted and Bound was sanctioned into existence.  Throughout 2025, it is my assigned mission to build and maintain this blog for Sir Zuegi, and you, our audience.  It is my intention to share our experience with building, implementing and growing a leathermen household.  My goal is to share our experience in the hopes that it can inspire or be used as a resource by others in the community.

    To learn about Sir Zuegi and boy s37, be sure to check out the blog about page.  Stay tuned for an upcoming post that will detail all of the goals that Sir Zuegi has approved for focus in 2025.  Until then, Happy New Year, and I look forward to engaging with all of you!

    Have topics you’d like to see discussed on this blog?  If so, be sure to leave a comment below.