“You must do things that you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
In a time not so far away, I would’ve only dreamt of living in a full-time 24×7 D/s dynamic. But, with courage, the power of communication, and goal setting and planning, we are on our way to achieving just that.
I have always been a somewhat goal oriented person. But, there is a catch – deep down – I want to make that achievement for someone else. I want to be accepted and rewarded for good behavior and corrected and disciplined when I veer off. I want to improve for my Sir, and improve in areas that will please Him most. I want to feel His support and I want to submit to Him for my failings so that I am fully accountable to Him. I want to be there for Him in ways that He needs me to be so that I am part of His growth and development. Together, I want us to achieve great things and to grow together.
In late 2024, we set out to define goals to further our pursuit of BDSM and to achieve greater health and wellness. As much as I’d like to just be assigned goals and told what I will achieve, there is a practical aspect required to truly implement a healthy 24×7 D/s dynamic. Therefore, we approached this in a much more collaborative way. Over the course of several sessions, we drafted and iterated on a set of goals that we felt could be achieved and that would further our growth. What made this possible was open and transparent communication, and the willingness to be open with each other about what we want for ourselves as well as for each other.
To anchor our goal setting process in BDSM, each goal and/or goal change must be presented and approved by Sir. This gives Sir ultimate authority and control over what His boy is focused on. We completed this process, and Sir has approved each of the following goals:
Leather Lifestyle Goals:
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy and I will work to implement leather lifestyle and BDSM principles to support our growth as individuals and as life partners. I will work to grow in my role as Dom, and my boy s37 will work to grow in his role as my collared sub.
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy and I will create and maintain a contract and set of leathermen household protocols to live by. I expect My boy to enter a service contract with me and follow my required protocols.
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy and I will attend leather and BDSM oriented community events. I expect my boy to demonstrate respect and to represent us well at all events I allow him to attend.
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy will practice leather care in his role as my bootblack. I expect him to be learning and practicing to ensure proper care of all of our leather household gear.
Learning Goals:
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] We will each be learning new BDSM techniques to further our growth and development. This will include books, videos and hands-on training classes and seminars. I expect my boy to regularly share his learnings, findings and experiences.
Health & Fitness Goals:
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 22-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will develop a physique that is pleasing to me and that aligns with an athletic and muscular build with a targeted body fat percentage of 10-15%, a chest measure of 40”, bicep measures of 14”, a shoulder measure of 46” and thigh measures of 24”.
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will develop and maintain a rock solid core with a chiseled and visible set of abs that’s pleasing to me.
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will develop and maintain excellent cardiovascular health and endurance so that he performs well for all of my required training.
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will track and maintain our fitness progress through body measurements and regular performance tracking and make this info available for greater accountability.
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will be held responsible for delivering measurable progress towards his health & fitness goals as well as towards mine. I expect my boy to assist me in whatever ways necessary to ensure we are both delivering measurable results that satisfy me.
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] I will build a more muscular physique and eat a balanced diet to maintain good health and physical form. A measurable goal of a 35 in waist, a 38″ belly and a targeted body fat percentage of 20%.
Community Goals:
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] I expect my boy to volunteer for one or more leather/BDSM organizations as a means to give back to the community.
[Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] I expect my boy to maintain a public facing blog that supports writings around my goals for him, and other topics of interest that I assign and approve for him.
I would encourage anyone into BDSM to define goals and doing so collaboratively in a relationship makes a lot of sense. You can add a D/s aspect by layering in protocols for goal approval, goal review and goal progress checks. Set achievable goals, but also some that will push you and drive you towards growth.
The purpose of this blog is to showcase writings about goal progress and achievements throughout the year as required by Sir’s approved community goal for his boy. Stay tuned for progress updates as well as info on goal progress and challenges as we progress through the year.
Do you have goals as part of your BDSM dynamic? If so, leave a comment below and share any recommendations you have on how to incorporate goals and manage to them as part of a kink dynamic.
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