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  • Locktober Chastity Celebration

    Locktober Chastity Celebration

    “The body achieves what the mind believes.”

    To celebrate this locktober, Sir Zuegi is requiring His boy to be locked and to reflect on chastity service throughout the month. Sir Zuegi and His boy s37 will each answer the following questions about their chastity experience. Enjoy, and hope you are having a great locktober!

    How did you first start playing with chastity?

    Sir Zuegi: With my boy when he presented the idea before our D/s dynamic began. I enjoyed the feeling of him being locked unable to experience orgasm and I experimented with it also so I understand the mental and physical control it takes.

    boy s37: In my early 20s with a CB-6000 device. Still have one of the devices for nostalgia. This boy would frequently self lock, and sometimes lock for a keyholder.

    What has been your biggest learning experience with chastity?

    Sir Zuegi: Learning how to read and understand my boys capacity with chastity. 

    boy s37: Learning to wear it 24×7. At first, sleeping in chastity was near impossible – the pain from wood in the middle of the night was unbearable. Lots of vasaline and baby oil. Today, this boy can sleep through the night in chastity with little to no pain/discomfort.

    What is your favorite aspect of chastity control?

    Sir Zuegi: Knowing that my boy is caged and that he feels my control over his cock. 

    boy s37: Currently, the control over the device itself. This boy is not allowed to ask Sir to wear it, and Sir controls when and if His boy is in it. Often, the times without the chastity device are the most difficult, because this boy has grown used to the security and feeling of it.

    What is a new chastity experience you’d like to try?

    Sir Zuegi: Release without removing the cage. 

    boy s37: More trigger based lock/unlock periods based on how this boy has performed towards specific goals or targets. Have always liked the idea of chastity being dependent on specific outcomes that are of interest and please my Dom.

    What advice do you have for someone just starting out with chastity?

    Sir Zuegi: Begin slowly. It’s a path of mind over matter.

    boy s37: take it slow, and enjoy every aspect/moment of the experience. It takes a lot of time to adapt, and enjoyment comes from the journey and learning along the way.

    Final thoughts: boy s37 would like to thank Sir Zuegi for allowing His boy to participate in locktober this year, and for making this boy present and aware of his chastity service for Sir.

    What role does chastity play in your dynamic? Are you participating in locktober, and if so, how?

    Approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • Evolution of Health and Fitness in Our Dom/sub Dynamic

    Evolution of Health and Fitness in Our Dom/sub Dynamic

    “If there is no struggle, there is no progress.”

    Health and fitness is one of the core tenants of our D/s dynamic. Earlier this year, this boy wrote about how we incorporated health and fitness into our dynamic, and the rituals we use to share progress and stay on track.  Here, Sir’s boy will elaborate on how things are progressing with a focus on what has worked and what hasn’t and some adjustments we are making along the way.

    The first step in our health and fitness dynamic was setting goals.  Sir’s long term goals for us are written to be achievable in a one year timeframe.  With half the year over, we’re learning that setting short term goals is equally as important as long term goals. For example, this boy has an approved goal to improve cardiovascular health and endurance, but at this point in the year, this boy has not made significant progress in this area. Setting a short term goal to run x miles per week, or to get into the boxing gym x times per week would be a way to make progress while working towards the long-term goal achievement. So, having short term focused goal milestones that support our long term goals has been necessary for us to make consistent measurable progress. 

    Tracking is an important aspect of our dynamic, and seeing measurable progress towards goals is critical for motivation and focus. However, focusing primarily on muscle growth leaves blind spots that don’t highlight forward progress in other areas. We have found it equally important to measure habits that lead to long term growth. For example, measuring weekly pushups completed has helped this boy understand how progress towards overall improved chest growth is working towards achieving Sir’s approved goal. So, we have found that measuring things that lead to good habits in addition to body measures results in better long-term development.

    We have added service aspects to our dynamic, and many have fallen flat. For example, we experimented with this boy providing Sir with workouts He can complete. We also experimented with this boy making protein shakes for Sir after His workouts.  These attempts have failed to contribute to our overall dynamic due to scheduling or other issues making service inconsistent or impractical. Our finding is that we need to spend more time up front discussing service ideas to make sure they are practical and contribute to our overall dynamic. Otherwise, service can lead to inconsistency, and inconsistency erodes the quality of a D/s dynamic very quickly. 

    Rituals and scenes have been vital to our dynamic. Our monthly measurement and reporting scene is key to leveling on expectations and for setting future direction. A key discovery for this boy is that waiting a full month to discuss progress is not enough to keep the dynamic juices flowing. This is an area where we are leaning in and making adjustments. For example, this boy now has weekly short-term goals where progress is shared online with the community. Boy s37 believes there is also an opportunity to start sharing this with Sir so that there is improved visibility. In addition, this boy has started to share a daily workout plan and schedule with Sir during our AM ritual. This has been a major improvement to keep our health & fitness dynamic present and top of mind each day. Sharing this with Sir daily keeps His boy accountable and increases vulnerability thus improving headspace that contributes to the overall D/s dynamic. A key takeaway is that you can’t discuss this stuff enough. Be willing to go the distance and increase your vulnerability so that it improves your headspace.

    Our latest focus is on establishing service with a focus on what works for us. It is of vital importance for this sub to feel he is providing service to Sir that He appreciates and that this boy can be successful delivering. We have been focused on areas of power exchange and discussing ideas at great length where we both have common interest (more on this in a future post).  We both have a major interest in diet control, and specifically, we have identified meal planning as an area for service so that we can both eat better.  We recently sat down and discussed meal planning, and narrowed it down to the following service dynamic addition:

    • Sir requires His boy to create a weekly meal plan and to present it each Sunday at the AM ritual if both Sir and His boy are home.

    We kept this service open ended enough where it can evolve over time, and where Sir can dial up or dial down His expectations based on His needs and His boy’s availability. As an example, we didn’t define who cooks the meals so that we can keep this practical and He can layer in future expectations to keep this dynamic interesting.    A key takeaway is that service must be practical and requires a lot of discussion, discovery and experimentation to get it dialed in.

    And last but not least, it is critical to understand that a D/s dynamic must change over time. Things come up, health issues arise, and being overly rigid can sound hot, but ultimately it can erode headspace and the feeling of engagement. We continue to increase our communication about our health & fitness dynamic, because the more we talk, the deeper we get in the dynamic. His expectations alone aren’t going to make His boy successful – but his willingness to be vulnerable for Sir and to work hard at making incremental improvements is key to realizing our desired outcomes. 

    What are your successes and failures with measured dynamic outcomes? How have your expectations changed over time as your D/s dynamic evolves?

    Written by s37 and approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • Chastity Q&A

    Chastity Q&A

    “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” – Robert J. Collier

    In this blog entry, Sir Zuegi and boy s37 will respond to five questions about s37’s chastity service. Both Sir Zuegi and s37 are aware of each other’s questions, but will not have visibility into each other’s answers until this is published.   

     

    Question 1:

    s37: What does it mean to boy s37 to be locked in chastity for Sir Zuegi?

    >> I view being locked in chastity as one of the greatest gestures and sacrifices I can make to Sir as His disciplined leatherboy. My suppression of my own sexual impulses for Him is a testament of my commitment and my willingness to put His needs before my own. 

    We recently attended a class at CLAW LA, where a Dom/sub couple were presenting on their dynamic, and the Dom showcased His sub’s locked cock in the class by pulling it out from his jock pouch.  His Sir then said, “I have the dick, and he has the hole.”  It was a  perfect display of power play exchange between a Dom and His sub, and it is how I feel about my privilege to serve Sir in chastity and demonstrate my willingness to serve.  

    Sir Zuegi: What does it mean to Sir Zuegi to lock His boy s37 in chastity?

    >> It means having control over both his sexual and mental desires. Its restricting access and making him think of me with a physical reminder.

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    Question 2:

    s37: How often does boy s37 get to unlock, and how does it feel to be unlocked?

    >> As I write this, I am unlocked and on an airplane sitting next to Sir.  I dislike being unlocked, because when I am unlocked it is much harder for me to maintain sub headspace and it forces me to be more self disciplined and not to give in to temptation. Having sexual urges while being unlocked means staying focused on the fact that Sir has complete control over my dick even when I’m not caged for Him. Is this good training for His boy?  Yes, but I definitely prefer feeling the safety of the cage when Sir has me locked and He holds the key. 

    Sir Zuegi: How often does Sir Zuegi allow His boy to unlock, and how does it feel to You for s37 to be unlocked?

    >> I prefer he’s only unlocked when necessary, like for travel or practical reasons. I prefer boy to be locked and I feel when he is unlocked his mindspace isn’t the same.

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    Question 3:

    s37: Is it okay for boy s37 to ask or beg to be unlocked, and if allowed to unlock, does this mean that boy s37 is then allowed to cum?

    >> There is an unwritten rule between us that I do not beg to be unlocked and I only ask to be unlocked when appropriate, such as when passing through airport security. As a sub, I hate begging – it isn’t my thing, and I’m not the type of sub that wants to emphasize my desires/needs over that of Sir’s. So, I don’t beg, and I don’t think that begging is something that Sir desires to see me do. 

    As for being allowed to cum – I do not associate being unlocked with that privilege.  Another unwritten rule is that I ask Sir to cum and receive permission before I am allowed.  To me, this is an important part of being a disciplined leatherboy.

    Sir Zuegi: Is it okay for Your boy to ask or beg to be unlocked, and if allowed to unlock by You, does this mean Your boy s37 is then allowed to cum?

    >> Yes it is ok to beg to be unlocked and I if granted I would approve of boy to cum as it is necessary to stay physically and mentally fit.

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    Question 4:

    s37: How does boy s37 remain committed to chastity service and ensure Sir Zuegi remains aware of His boy’s time in chastity?

    >> Early on in the development of our dynamic we created a ritual/protocol that each morning I kneel in front of Sir, thank Him for being locked (or unlocked), and then let Him know how many days since my last allowed uncaged release. I have found this to be an incredibly important ritual, because it helps me maintain a service mindset.  When I am not physically present in front of Sir, then I text Him this exchange.

    Before this ritual was created, it was hard to keep my chastity top of mind and it almost became background. This ritual really allows me to connect with Sir each day over this privilege/sacrifice – and I am extremely thankful to have this moment with Him each day to demonstrate my dedication to being disciplined in this way.

    Sir Zuegi: How does Sir Zuegi remain committed to His boy’s chastity service, and ensure His boy remains constantly aware of his time in chastity?

    >> I require he remains locked or asked to be unlocked even when we are separated.

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    Question 5:

    s37: What is the one change boy s37 would like to see with chastity service that he has not yet communicated to Sir Zuegi?

    >> As a good leatherboy, I think I should feel thankful to be locked full time and to suppress all my inner desires to feel pleasure through my locked cock. However, there is a part of me that still wants to feel pleasure. My desire would be to experience edging either as denial or as part of some form of gratification as part of my chastity service.  What I would get from this is two fold – demonstrating my ability to control orgasm for Sir by only cumming with His approval, and to satisfy a need to still feel pleasure knowing full well that it might only lead to frustration. However, I feel that both aspects would demonstrate my dedication to being a disciplined leatherboy.

    Sir Zuegi: What is the one change Sir Zuegi would like to see with chastity service that He has not yet communicated to His boy?

    >> When unlocked boy has his device near him as a reminder that even though he is unlocked he will be locked again.

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    Check s37’s current chastity lock status.

    Are you locked in chastity or a Dom/keyholder for someone locked?  If so, what role does chastity play in Y/your dynamic, and what is Y/your favorite aspect of chastity play?

  • Health & Fitness as a Dynamic

    Health & Fitness as a Dynamic

    “Do something today that your future self will thank you for.“ – Sean Patrick Flanery

    What does it mean to mix health and fitness with a BDSM dynamic to drive towards your desired outcomes? As I explore my own interests with BDSM and health & fitness, I consider this question and the potential to bring these two together in interesting ways.  Both interests stand on their own, but the intersection of BDSM and health & fitness create unique opportunities for shared accountability.  Both my Dom and I are quite interested in health & fitness and we have each made it a goal to keep ourselves fit.  As we explore our emerging Dom/sub dynamic, health & fitness continues to be a key part of the dynamic we are working towards.  We will explore this further and share where we are today, and where we see this headed in the future.

    From a sub perspective, I want to be fit, I want to be healthy, and I want to be held accountable for achieving those desired outcomes.  During our goal defining talks, we discussed our shared interest in improving our health & fitness for each other.  My Dom is aware of His boy’s athletic nature, and is very supportive of his boy’s desire to grow physically stronger and more athletic for Him.  He is aware that His boy doesn’t desire to be a bodybuilder, but rather an athletic and muscular boy that maintains fitness as a lifestyle.  Thankfully, this is something that we share in common, but reconciling our differences and understanding our commonalities was the first step in creating our emerging D/s dynamic.

    I am equally energized by seeing my Dom succeed, and for Him to pursue His personal health and fitness goals.  While it can be challenging for a sub to hold a Dom accountable – we made His goals a central part of our overall dynamic.  His boy assists Him with His measures, His diet tracking, and also ensuring that Sir has workout plans that are both effective and tuned to His specific liking.  

    To make our health & fitness BDSM dynamic take shape, we have established measurement protocols that allow for continuous monitoring and analysis of our progress towards our approved health & fitness goals.  On the first of each month, we go through the process of collecting measures specific to our established goals, and then His boy compiles this information and presents it to Sir as part of a health & fitness accountability session.

    What does it look like to then take action on this measurement info?  You can view Sir Zuegi’s monthly measure collection, and see how He is progressing towards His defined goals.  And, you can view boy s37’s monthly measure collection, and see how he is progressing towards his defined goals.  The second step in creating this dynamic was for His boy to collect this data, organize it, and make it visible to Sir.  This is a service that this boy provides and one that Sir Zuegi expects.  Beyond that, boy s37 maintains a health & fitness jockboy diary blog that chronicles his day to day actions to stay accountable for required outcomes.

    The final step in creating our health & fitness dynamic is maintaining on-going lasting accountability.  This is a work in progress, but a scene document has been drafted to document this and explore what that might look like.  This boy maintains the data and analysis for Sir so that He can keep His leather household accountable for His approved and expected outcomes.  In addition, His boy can seek ways that he can assist Sir with achieving these outcomes by creating more opportunities.  Examples of this are preparing clean meals, writing workout plans, and maintaining the gym space.

    We are in the early stages of establishing this dynamic, but we both remain very excited about where we are and where we see this going.  Staying true to the mission of this blog, we will publish more info on our progress and details about what works and what doesn’t.  Starting in early February 2025, boy s37 will publish outcomes each month about how Sir Zuegi and His boy are progressing towards defined health and fitness goal targets.  The purpose of these public posts is to create exposure to help us stay motivated and accountable.

    Do you use BDSM as an accountability dynamic for health and fitness goals, and if so, what has your experience been?  What has worked, and what hasn’t worked?