“Good habits are worth being fanatical about.” – John Irving
I have had many ups and downs with my diet over the years. I have spent much time in the gym lifting weights and putting in the work, all to drive slower than expected results due to poor diet control. Everything you read about diet tends to be complex and difficult to maintain over time. It can be hard to break it all down and figure out how to eat right to support growth. And, what is right for one person might not work the same for someone else. So, implementing diet control, for me, has been challenging to say the least.
My Dom does not directly require diet control per His goals for me. However, in order for me to achieve His approved goals, then I know I must eat in a way that will feed growth and support His desired outcomes. Therefore, getting my diet right is critical for delivering results for Him.
Here, I will share a day in the life of boy s37 from a diet perspective, and how I think about diet and diet tracking. I will then share how we use ‘diet control ’ as part of our D/s dynamic. I will share some of my behind the scenes struggles with dieting, and some of the wants and desires I have related to diet control and submission.
Right after I wake, I consume the first meal of the day – breakfast. If it is a workout day I follow the workout day meal plan, otherwise I follow the non-workout plan which has fewer calories. I use the master meal plan printouts I have posted up in the kitchen as a guide for the 2500 calorie per day meal plan. This is a meal plan I have been using for quite some time, and when I follow it, I get good growth results. Once this meal is consumed, I open my weekly health tracker and mark meal 1 as ‘HIT’ for the day.
At approximately 10am, I prepare and consume the second meal of the day. Again, I follow the meal plan based on whether it is a workout or non-workout day. Generally, this meal is a small to medium red potato, cottage cheese, nuts and a piece of fruit. Once this meal is consumed, I open the health tracker and mark meal 2 as ‘HIT’ for the day.
The 3rd and 4th meals of the day vary depending on whether it is a workout day or not. If it is a workout day, I consume a pre-workout snack and protein as meal 3, and then I consume a spinach, protein, nuts and berry shake for meal 4. If it is a non-workout day, I follow the meal plan as scripted for meals 3 and 4. Once these are consumed, I update the health tracker for these meals.
The 5th meal of the day is dinner and I follow the meal plan’s general guidance for this. Once dinner is consumed, I update the health tracker for meal 5 as ‘HIT’.
About an hour before bed, I prepare the 6th meal of the day. This is a bedtime snack, and it is always greek yogurt with frozen berries. This doesn’t exactly follow the diet guideline, but I enjoy this slight deviation and have been able to make it habitual. Once this last meal of the day is consumed, I update the health tracker for meal 6 as ‘HIT’.
Any meal throughout the day that doesn’t meet the diet guidelines is marked as ‘MISS’. If a meal is missed entirely, then this automatically becomes a ‘MISS’. For each day, I also track hydration. If I generally stay hydrated, then I mark this as a ‘HIT’ for the day. I also track alcohol consumption, and if I consume alcohol as more than just a dinner accompaniment, then this becomes a ‘MISS’ for the day. I generally allow myself one to two glasses of wine with dinner, and I do not count this as a miss.
So, with six meals per day plus alcohol and hydration, that makes 8 things to mark as either HIT or MISS each day. So, in any given week, I am tracking 8*7=56 diet entries as ‘HIT’ or ‘MISS’. Notice that I am not tracking calories and other macro nutrients. This has greatly simplified my ability to track this and remain compliant. Simplicity is the key to successful diet control.
This diet plan has worked well for me, but there are a number of challenges. I used to have a bad habit of missing meals 3 and 4 on workout days, because I just don’t have enough time to eat all those meals and workout. Therefore, I tweaked workout days to combine meals 3 and 4. The other complication is reporting honestly. Say I go out for dinner, have a decent steak dinner, but eat fries with it. Do I count this as a ‘HIT’ since it was mostly in line with my diet? If I’m being honest with myself and with my Dom, then I count this as a MISS because those fries are not compliant with my meal plan. My other issue is alcohol. Alcohol makes me tired and dehydrated the next day, and I tend to miss diet meals after drinking. I have learned that I must limit alcohol consumption in order to stay focused, positive, and making gains.
The other issue is disruptions to the pattern of eating and tracking. If I’m travelling for work or for leisure, then all hell breaks loose, and it is extremely hard to maintain diet. If I know I’m not going to be able to remain compliant on certain days or for certain meals, then I mark them as ‘NA’ – not applicable – and I don’t track them. I always confirm with Sir when I am marking days or meals as NA that way He is aware that His boy is intentionally skipping tracking. Racking up a bunch of MISS’es when traveling can trigger a failure loop, and failure tends to beget more failure, so I avoid this situation whenever possible to remain positive and compliant.
So, you’ve read this far, and maybe you are starting to wonder exactly how all of this is part of a Dom/sub dynamic? Each month, I report to Sir the percentage of meals that met diet compliance. You will find this information on my monthly measures trend, under ‘Monthly Diet Adherence’. Sir then determines if my performance was inline with the expectations that He sets and communicates to me each month as part of our monthly check-in scene. As an example, Sir has given His boy a goal of 85% for February 2025, and if I hit that target, then perhaps I will be rewarded. If I miss it, then I may be punished for it.
There are many things I fantasize about from a control perspective. I enjoy being obedient and having this diet adherence goal to work towards and it really does help me focus. I wish there were more day to day protocols that prevented me from breaking with the diet plan. An example of this would be being required to ask Sir’s permission to ‘MISS’ any given meal target. This would remind me that Sir ultimately controls the outcome so long as His boy remains structured and obedient. We have only just begun to experiment with rewards and punishments for missing diet control targets. To date, this boy has always hit the target that Sir sets, so this really is a powerful tool to help me stay on target.
Thus far, I have seen growth on this plan. The real control dynamic comes when I report growth targets to Sir that demonstrate that this diet is working towards the goals that He has approved. So far this year I am cutting, seeing chest growth, and improvements in arm, shoulder and thigh size. None of this happens fast, but the numbers are trending in the right direction, which means that my discipline and focus are driving towards Sir’s desired outcomes.
You can see current diet compliance details for boy s37 on the jockboydiary blog – this is where he tracks health and fitness progress on a day to day basis.
What are Y/your trials and tribulations with dieting and remaining consistent to support growth targets? Have Y/you experimented with Dom/sub dynamics related to diet control? If so, what have Y/you found that works well? What do Y/you fantasize about in terms of health and fitness control?
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