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  • Achieving Fitness Goals: November 2025 Results

    Achieving Fitness Goals: November 2025 Results

    “There is no right time.  Just time, and what you do with it.” – Frank Gilfeather

    Each month, boy s37 will report results based on the fitness goals that Sir Zuegi has approved for us. His boy will then present the results to Sir and get further instructions and guidance. Learn more about our Dom/sub fitness training dynamic and how these results are actioned on.

    boy s37 results –

    ORDER Name: Body Measures and Pics

    Sir’s Command: Body measures will be promptly recorded and reported to Sir with His boy being held accountable for progress towards His goals.

    Results Comparison: 

    Sir’s approved long-term goals and related targets for boy s37:

    • My boy s37 will develop a physique that is pleasing to me and that aligns with an athletic and muscular build with a targeted body fat percentage of 10-15%, a chest measure of 40”. >> Decrease in chest (.02″), increase in waist (.01″), increase in belly (.25″), increase in body fat % (.1).
      • November target – My boy will focus on stretching and body weight exercises >> Added stretching each week with an avg of 3.5 stretch routines per week.
      • November target – My boy will continue to rehabilitate his shoulder and arm >> Continued to avoid upper body strength work to allow for shoulder rehabilitation.
    • My boy s37 will develop and maintain a rock solid core with a chiseled and visible set of abs that’s pleasing to me. >> Minor increase in BF by .1%.
    • My boy s37 will develop and maintain excellent cardiovascular health and endurance so that he performs well for all of my required training. >>
      • November target – My boy will shift focus from chest goal to body fat goal >> Increased cardio work through a combination of HIT workouts and running. Ran an average of 4.7mi per week.

    Sir requires His boy s37 to focus on the following targets for December:

    • My boy will focus on rehabilitating his shoulder with stretches and range of motion exercises.
    • My boy will continue tracking running times and distance.
    • My boy will have more than 16 workout days in December.

    Learn more about s37’s progression and workouts on the jockboydiary.

    Sir Zuegi results –

    Results Comparison: 

    Health & Fitness Goal Progress:

    Sir Zuegi’s Long-term Goals:

    • I will build a more muscular physique and eat a balanced diet to maintain good health and physical form. A measurable goal of a 35 in waist, a 38″ belly and a targeted body fat percentage of 20%. >> Increase in weight, (1 lb), increase in belly (.49″), decrease in waist (.15″), and decrease in body fat % (.2).
      • November target – I will continue to avoid pm carbs>> Diet adherence of 87.8% of tracked meals. 46 meals not tracked.
      • November target – I will focus on 3 HIT workouts and decrease in body fat >> Average of 3.5 HIT workouts completed for each training week in November.

    Sir Zuegi’s targets for December:

    • I will focus on continuing 3 or more HIT workouts.
    • I will target 85% diet adherence.

    Approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • Self Discovery through Leather Experiences

    Self Discovery through Leather Experiences

    As boy have been on this transformation leather journey with Sir, there have been moments in time that have acted as anchor points for reflection.  One of those was at Palm Springs Leather Pride a few weeks ago in October.

    Sir and His boy first attended Palm Springs Leather pride in 2024 to watch Rene Hebert be sashed as Mr. Palm Springs Leather.  Boy distinctly remembers everything about that event because it was one of the very first leather events that boy attended with Sir.  Boy remembers still feeling a little awkward in its skin and leathers and not feeling confident about where it was in the transformational journey it is on.  Boy remembers scanning out across the room and seeing all the leathermen, and feeling a little self conscious about where it fits in with all of this.  Seeing Rene, a bootblack, win the title was a really joyful experience, because boy had found a lot of self growth through learning bootblack skills.  His resources online and his presence were really positive influences.

    Later that year, Sir and His boy attended International Mr. Leather (IML) in Chicago, and got to watch Rene win the International Mr. Leather title.  Watching his growth journey from Palm Springs all the way to the big stage in Chicago was very motivational.  While boy has never desired to go after a title, or at least not yet, it certainly created excitement and a desire to do more and to be better.

    Flash forward to a few weeks, ago when it attended Mr. Palm Springs Leather 2025 with Sir.  Again, brought the leathers and had a tremendous time in Palm Springs as it always does with Sir.  But, this time was different because it was exactly one year since the last time boy had attended.  This time, boy sat up front much closer to the stage with Sir, and boy noticed that the self conscious energy it felt in 2024 had largely dissipated.  Instead of feeling as if this boy doesn’t belong, it felt very much like this was exactly where it needed to be.

    For boy, this acted as a major anchor point to validate that it is very much working towards something that brings much new learning and growth.  There is still SO MUCH that boy does not know, but the pursuit of that experience means that boy is growing and seeking new opportunity. 

    For boy, the pursuit of BDSM has meant a lot of self reflection.  Through shining boots and learning to be a better leather boy for Sir, it is finding strength through greater vulnerability and various experiences in the community.  Boy looks forward to continuing this path of self discovery and continuing to redefine its purpose.  Boy fully embraces the path it is on and looks forward to many more experiences like this one and others.

    What is a significant self growth milestone you have experienced in your journey?  How did it shape you and what did you learn from it?

    Approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • Achieving Fitness Goals: October 2025 Results

    Achieving Fitness Goals: October 2025 Results

    “How long are you going to wait before you demand the best for yourself? – Epictetus

    Each month, boy s37 will report results based on the fitness goals that Sir Zuegi has approved for us. His boy will then present the results to Sir and get further instructions and guidance. Learn more about our Dom/sub fitness training dynamic and how these results are actioned on.

    boy s37 results –

    ORDER Name: Body Measures and Pics

    Sir’s Command: This boy will submit for body image and measurement reporting on the first of each month. Body measures will be promptly recorded and reported to Sir with His boy being held accountable for progress towards His goals.

    Results Comparison: 

    Sir’s approved long-term goals and related targets for boy s37:

    • My boy s37 will develop a physique that is pleasing to me and that aligns with an athletic and muscular build with a targeted body fat percentage of 10-15%, a chest measure of 40”. >> Decrease in chest (.10″), decrease in waist (.52″), decrease in belly (.38″), decrease in body fat % (1.1).
      • October target – boy will continue to diversify his pushup routine to include regular, wide and narrow pushups and hit a goal of 60 per day >> Your boy completed 1400 total pushups during the month but discontinued pushups with Your permission because of a shoulder injury Sir.
      • October target – boy will incorporate a stretching day each week >> Your boy completed 13 stretching routines, with one or more completed each training week Sir.
      • October target – boy will focus on maintaining a workout plan despite the focus on kitchen project and the travel >> Your boy continues to prepare a workout plan each week. Your boy completed 21 total workouts in October Sir.
    • My boy s37 will develop and maintain a rock solid core with a chiseled and visible set of abs that’s pleasing to me. >> Downward trend in BF%.
      • October target – boy will continue to track his diet and only not track meals approved by Sir including during travel >> Your boy continued to diet track, and delivered a 89.2% diet adherence for October. Your boy had 71 meals not tracked in October (all approved by You Sir).
    • My boy s37 will develop and maintain excellent cardiovascular health and endurance so that he performs well for all of my required training. >> While not an assigned target for October, this boy continued to incorporate runs and high-intensity interval training Sir.
    • Other targets:
      • October target – locktober chastity tracking >> Your boy was locked for 26 out of 31 days and chastity celebration blog entry approved and posted to the blog Sir.

    Sir requires His boy s37 to focus on the following targets for November:

    • My boy will shift focus from chest goal to body fat goal.
    • My boy will continue to rehabilitate his shoulder and arm.
    • My boy will focus on stretching and body weight exercises.

    Learn more about s37’s progression and workouts on the jockboydiary.

    Sir Zuegi results –

    Results Comparison: 

    Health & Fitness Goal Progress:

    Sir Zuegi’s Long-term Goals:

    • I will build a more muscular physique and eat a balanced diet to maintain good health and physical form. A measurable goal of a 35 in waist, a 38″ belly and a targeted body fat percentage of 20%. >> Decrease in weight, (1.7 lb), increase in belly (.08″), increase in waist (.09″), and increase in body fat % (.3).
      • October target – I will continue to avoid carbs after lunch and focus on a clean diet including during travel >> Diet adherence of 83.8% of tracked meals.
      • October target – I will continue to perform at least 2 HIT workouts per week >> Two or more HIT workouts completed for each training week in October.

    Sir Zuegi’s targets for November:

    • I will focus on 3 HIT workouts and decrease in body fat.
    • I will continue to avoid pm carbs.

    Approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • Locktober Chastity Celebration

    Locktober Chastity Celebration

    “The body achieves what the mind believes.”

    To celebrate this locktober, Sir Zuegi is requiring His boy to be locked and to reflect on chastity service throughout the month. Sir Zuegi and His boy s37 will each answer the following questions about their chastity experience. Enjoy, and hope you are having a great locktober!

    How did you first start playing with chastity?

    Sir Zuegi: With my boy when he presented the idea before our D/s dynamic began. I enjoyed the feeling of him being locked unable to experience orgasm and I experimented with it also so I understand the mental and physical control it takes.

    boy s37: In my early 20s with a CB-6000 device. Still have one of the devices for nostalgia. This boy would frequently self lock, and sometimes lock for a keyholder.

    What has been your biggest learning experience with chastity?

    Sir Zuegi: Learning how to read and understand my boys capacity with chastity. 

    boy s37: Learning to wear it 24×7. At first, sleeping in chastity was near impossible – the pain from wood in the middle of the night was unbearable. Lots of vasaline and baby oil. Today, this boy can sleep through the night in chastity with little to no pain/discomfort.

    What is your favorite aspect of chastity control?

    Sir Zuegi: Knowing that my boy is caged and that he feels my control over his cock. 

    boy s37: Currently, the control over the device itself. This boy is not allowed to ask Sir to wear it, and Sir controls when and if His boy is in it. Often, the times without the chastity device are the most difficult, because this boy has grown used to the security and feeling of it.

    What is a new chastity experience you’d like to try?

    Sir Zuegi: Release without removing the cage. 

    boy s37: More trigger based lock/unlock periods based on how this boy has performed towards specific goals or targets. Have always liked the idea of chastity being dependent on specific outcomes that are of interest and please my Dom.

    What advice do you have for someone just starting out with chastity?

    Sir Zuegi: Begin slowly. It’s a path of mind over matter.

    boy s37: take it slow, and enjoy every aspect/moment of the experience. It takes a lot of time to adapt, and enjoyment comes from the journey and learning along the way.

    Final thoughts: boy s37 would like to thank Sir Zuegi for allowing His boy to participate in locktober this year, and for making this boy present and aware of his chastity service for Sir.

    What role does chastity play in your dynamic? Are you participating in locktober, and if so, how?

    Approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • Achieving Fitness Goals: September 2025 Results

    Achieving Fitness Goals: September 2025 Results

    “A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor.” – Franklin Roosevelt

    Each month, boy s37 will report results based on the fitness goals that Sir Zuegi has approved for us. His boy will then present the results to Sir and get further instructions and guidance. Learn more about our Dom/sub fitness training dynamic and how these results are actioned on.

    boy s37 results –

    ORDER Name: Body Measures and Pics

    Sir’s Command: This boy will submit for body image and measurement reporting on the first of each month. Body measures will be promptly recorded and reported to Sir with His boy being held accountable for progress towards His goals.

    Results Comparison: 

    Sir’s approved long-term goals and related targets for boy s37:

    • My boy s37 will develop a physique that is pleasing to me and that aligns with an athletic and muscular build with a targeted body fat percentage of 10-15%, a chest measure of 40”. >> Decrease in chest (.06″), decrease in waist (.19″), decrease in belly (.24″), decrease in body fat % (.4).
      • September target – boy will diversify his pushup routine to include regular, wide and narrow pushups and hit a goal of 60 per day >> Your boy completed 2800 total pushups during the month of September.
      • September target – boy will focus on maintaining a workout plan despite the focus on kitchen project >> Your boy continues to prepare a workout plan each week and to complete all planned workouts. Your boy completed 18 total workouts in September.
    • My boy s37 will develop and maintain a rock solid core with a chiseled and visible set of abs that’s pleasing to me. >> Downward trend in BF%, waist and belly size.
      • September target – boy will continue to track his diet and only not track meals approved by Sir >> Your boy continued to diet track, and delivered a 88.8% diet adherence for September. Your boy had 26 meals not-tracked in September (2 approved / 24 unapproved).
    • My boy s37 will develop and maintain excellent cardiovascular health and endurance so that he performs well for all of my required training. >> Continued to run and complete high-intensity style workouts in September.

    Sir requires His boy s37 to focus on the following targets for locktober:

    • boy will continue to diversify his pushup routine to include regular, wide and narrow pushups and hit a goal of 60 per day
    • boy will incorporate a stretching day each week
    • boy will focus on maintaining a workout plan despite the focus on kitchen project and the travel.
    • boy will continue to track his diet and only not track meals approved by Sir including during travel.
    • locktober chastity tracking target on white board.

    Learn more about s37’s progression and workouts on the jockboydiary.

    Sir Zuegi results –

    Results Comparison: 

    Health & Fitness Goal Progress:

    Sir Zuegi’s Long-term Goals:

    • I will build a more muscular physique and eat a balanced diet to maintain good health and physical form. A measurable goal of a 35 in waist, a 38″ belly and a targeted body fat percentage of 20%. >> Increase in weight, (.4 lb), increase in belly (.27″), decrease in waist (.52″), and decrease in body fat % (.8).
      • September target – I will continue to avoid carbs after lunch and focus on a clean diet >> No data available
      • August target – I will continue to perform at least 2 HIT workouts per week >> No data available

    Sir Zuegi’s targets for October:

    • I will continue to avoid carbs after lunch and focus on a clean diet including during travel.
    • I will continue to perform at least 2 HIT workouts per week

    Approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • Achieving Fitness Goals: August 2025 Results

    Achieving Fitness Goals: August 2025 Results

    “The first and best victor is to conquer self.” – Plato

    Each month, boy s37 will report results based on the fitness goals that Sir Zuegi has approved for us. His boy will then present the results to Sir and get further instructions and guidance. Learn more about our Dom/sub fitness training dynamic and how these results are actioned on.

    boy s37 results –

    ORDER Name: Body Measures and Pics

    SIR’S COMMAND: This boy will submit for body image and measurement reporting on the first of each month. Body measures will be promptly recorded and reported to Sir with His boy being held accountable for progress towards His goals.

    Results Comparison: 

    Outcome Trends: < open trends >

    Sir’s approved long-term goals and related targets for boy s37:

    • My boy s37 will develop a physique that is pleasing to me and that aligns with an athletic and muscular build with a targeted body fat percentage of 10-15%, a chest measure of 40”, bicep measures of 14”, a shoulder measure of 46” and thigh measures of 24”. >> Increase in chest (.15″), decrease in waist (.18″), decrease in belly (.8″), decrease in body fat % (.2).
      • August target – boy will diversify his pushup routine to include regular, wide and narrow pushups and hit a goal of 60 per day >> Your boy diversified the pushup routine to include Your required types as well as incline and decline pushups. This routine was used each day pushups were done. Narrow pushups were the hardest, but this boy quickly developed greater strength with these. Your boy completed 3215 total pushups during the month of August.
      • August target – boy will focus on maintaining a workout plan despite the focus on kitchen project >> Your boy continues to prepare a workout plan each week and to complete all planned workouts, except for those where Your boy was sick. Your boy completed 18 total workouts in August.
    • My boy s37 will develop and maintain a rock solid core with a chiseled and visible set of abs that’s pleasing to me. >> Downward trend in BF%, waist and belly size.
      • August target – boy will continue to track his diet and only not track meals approved by Sir >> Your boy continued to diet track, and delivered a 91.2% diet adherence for August. Your boy only had 10 meals not-tracked with in August, all of which were approved by You Sir.
    • My boy s37 will develop and maintain excellent cardiovascular health and endurance so that he performs well for all of my required training. >> Increase in cardio & endurance type workouts and overall cardio/endurance.
      • August target – boy will focus on getting back to performing a cardio workout once a week so long as his injury is not recurring >> Your boy completed 11 runs in August Sir. Towards the end of the month, this boy started running first thing in the morning to maximize the effect of after burn while in a fasted state. This has led to a huge energy boost, and this boy can feel an improvement in metabolism.

    Sir requires His boy s37 to focus on the following goal targets for September:

    • boy will diversify his pushup routine to include regular, wide and narrow pushups and hit a goal of 60 per day
    • boy will focus on maintaining a workout plan despite the focus on kitchen project
    • boy will continue to track his diet and only not track meals approved by Sir

    Learn more about s37’s progression and workouts on the jockboydiary.

    Sir Zuegi results –

    Results Comparison: 

    Outcome Trends: < open trends >

    Health & Fitness Goal Progress:

    Sir Zuegi’s Long-term Goals:

    • I will build a more muscular physique and eat a balanced diet to maintain good health and physical form. A measurable goal of a 35 in waist, a 38″ belly and a targeted body fat percentage of 20%. >> Decrease in weight, (.8lb), decrease in belly (.74″), increase in waist (.23″), and increase in body fat % (.4).
      • August target – I will use the new tracking tool to keep track of Aug data >> Diet and workout tracking completed for each day of the month in August.
      • August target – I will continue to avoid carbs after lunch and focus on a clean diet >> 71% of meals after lunch avoided carbs.
      • August target – I will continue to perform at least 2 HIT workouts per week >> Two out of 4 total weekly workout periods contained at least 2 HIT workouts in August. A total of 7 HIT workouts were completed for the month.

    Sir Zuegi’s goal targets for September:

    • I will continue to avoid carbs after lunch and focus on a clean diet
    • I will continue to perform at least 2 HIT workouts per week

    Approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • Navigating Dom/sub Dynamics: One Year In Reflection

    Navigating Dom/sub Dynamics: One Year In Reflection

    “Don’t just learn, experience.
    Don’t just read, absorb.
    Don’t just change, transform.
    Don’t just relate, advocate.
    Don’t just promise, prove.
    Don’t just criticize, encourage.
    Don’t just think, ponder.
    Don’t just take, give.
    Don’t just see, feel.
    Don’t just dream, do. 
    Don’t just hear, listen.
    Don’t just talk, act.
    Don’t just tell, show.
    Don’t just exist, live.”     – Roy T. Bennett

    Can you believe it – we’re now one year into our Dom/sub relationship transformation. For those new to this blog, Sir Zuegi and His boy s37 have been in a kink-positive relationship for 8 years. In August of 2025, we began discussing what it would look like to transform our relationship into a Dom/sub dynamic by disrupting current norms and establishing a power dynamic. Here we are one year later living a 24×7 Dom/sub lifestyle together. The books, the podcasts, the countless hours of discussions, the numerous conferences, the local leather socials and clubs – it is hard to believe what a spectacular journey it has been.

    In this blog entry, Sir Zuegi and boy s37 will answer 4 questions each about their Dom/sub relationship dynamic from their own perspectives:

    What is the most significant change in your relationship since implementing a Dom/sub dynamic?

    Sir Zuegi >> Communication. We communicate much more often and much more precisely since implementing the D/s dynamic. It has helped immensely as we are candid and are free to say what we want/need. It also allows me to explore a more Dominant position as I can bring up a variety of topics.

    boy s37 >> Connection – an incredible level of connectedness that is allowing this boy to better align to Sir’s will. Let’s face it, life is full of not-so-fun vanilla tasks. This boy feels that more and more of the everyday is being integrated into our dynamic and that Sir is allowing Himself to have more expectations of His boy. Through this, it feels we have better alignment – and by working to please Sir, this boy feels a deeper sense of place and belonging.

    What has been the biggest challenge you’ve faced while establishing a Dom/sub dynamic?

    Sir Zuegi >> Apprehension. I have second guessed myself numerous times. It is difficult to let go of the apprehension of societal norms in vanilla relationships but when I do it is so much more intense and satisfying for both of us.

    boy s37 >> Overthinking – and not living in the moment. This boy is a thinker, a planner and very detail oriented and driven person. Often, this boy will have expectations of himself and of others that prevent this boy from being in the moment which erodes his ability to experience the here and now. These traits leave this boy thinking about what is next as opposed to enjoying and feeling satisfied in the now. The D/s relationship has amplified these challenges, and this boy is working to be more present and patient and to give up the perception of being in control.

    What advice do you have for others looking to implement a D/s into an existing relationship?

    Sir Zuegi >> My biggest piece of advice is practice communicating uninhibitedly. Both the Dom and the sub must be willing and open to discussing their greatest desires and kinks to fully get onboard with one another.

    boy s37 >> Awareness – reconcile with yourself what you want and what you need with the relationship change. Start by creating an environment for open communication built on trust and respect for each other. If you can’t build trust and respect, then layering in a D/s isn’t going to make things better. Be resilient and be the catalyst for the change you need by starting the conversation. Know that the change probably isn’t going to happen the way you think it is, and it requires time and patience.

    What are you most looking forward to in the upcoming year of your Dom/sub dynamic?

    Sir Zuegi >> Letting go of more of my apprehension and self-doubt. Knowing that my boy enjoys when I take control and break the normal vanilla norms and take us into a better, more exciting D/s headspace.

    boy s37 >> Allowance – allowing this boy to become the submissive he knows he is and that he knows he needs to be. This boy will do his best to get out of his own way so that Sir can take/have more of His boy. This boy will achieve this by not controlling the process, and by making himself more vulnerable and available to live in the present.

    Approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • How Collars Shape Our Dom/sub dynamic

    How Collars Shape Our Dom/sub dynamic

    “A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials.” – Lucias Seneca

    boy s37

    The work day for Your boy is over for today -may Your boy wear Your chain collar Sir?

    (s37 approaches Sir Zuegi with collar in hand and presents for Him)

    Sir Zuegi

    Yes boy.

    (Sir Zuegi reaches for the collar to lock it on His boy)

    Recently, we had a detailed conversation about collaring and what it means to Sir Zuegi and His boy s37.  In this blog entry, we will describe how collars are used in our D/s (Dom/sub) dynamic, the meaning behind them, and how that is evolving over time.

    What does the collar mean to Sir and His boy?

    Sir Zuegi: For Me, the collar represents my domination over my boy. It is both a physical and psychological item that transforms my headspace. When I see my boy in his collar it is a visual representation of our dynamic. I enjoy being asked at events if he is collared for Me, which I excitedly reply yes. The collar is both a tangible item that is our dynamic and also portrays that to others as well.

    boy s37: For this boy, the collar represents my commitment to Sir Zuegi as His leatherboy, and so long as I am allowed to wear His collar, then this boy is dedicated to all He expects of me.  The collar gives me an incredible sense of security and belonging.  When in Sir’s collar, this boy feels part of something much larger and is compelled to be a more obedient boy focused on improving for Him.  

    What are the collar types in our D/s dynamic?

    In our D/s relationship, Sir has defined four physical collar types and one virtual collar type:

    Physical Types:

    Daily Collar – This collar is a thin piece of leather with a handmade glass pendant of the leatherboy flag.  This collar represents Sir’s boy’s will to serve and uphold the values of the leathermen lifestyle.  This boy is often in this collar and wears it throughout the day when at work.  This collar is more easily disguisable as most would see it as art and wouldn’t understand the significance of it.  Sir has a matching BDSM glass flag pendant, which He sometimes wears.

    Chain Collar – This collar is a heavy chain and lock that can only be removed with a key.  This collar is more substantial and harder to disguise as it is tight enough around the neck to not be easily hidden under a shirt.  This collar carries more significance for public protocol that Sir requires.

    Training Collar – This is a leather locking collar with a simple D ring in the front for a leash attachment.  This collar is worn when Sir expects a high level of communication protocol from His boy.  This collar carries a number of service requirements that establish a more formal setting between Sir and His boy.

    Bondage Collar – This is a leather or rubber locking collar with many bondage D rings for attachment.  Leather or rubber is used depending on the context the collar is being used in.  These collars have the highest level communication protocol requirement.  The collars are generally used in the dungeon playspace or when Sir requires absolute control and obedience from His boy.

    Virtual Type:

    No-Collar: The no-collar is a virtual collar type that Sir’s boy can wear when Sir tells His boy he is to be in no-collar mode or when His boy uses the safeword and requests to be in no-collar mode.  The no-collar effectively turns off all protocols and expectations that a physical collar carries and symbolizes.  This collar can be used during certain travel scenarios or when visiting family in order to shut off our D/s protocol and ritual requirements.  We have found that this prevents having D/s expectations during times when it is difficult to maintain the lifestyle, however this gets used very infrequently.

    What are our current collar rituals and protocols?

    This is where things get interesting and differ in our D/s dynamic.  Many of the protocols and service expectations in our D/s are dependent and tied to the usage of the various collar types.  Each collar represents a level of protocol and service requirement that Sir expects.  

    The following are examples:

    • Daily Collar: When wearing this collar, this boy must always perform the AM ritual, which informs Sir of this boy’s chastity status and days since last allowed release.  
    • Chain Collar: This boy walks slightly behind Sir’s right heel when in public.
    • Training Collar: This boy must provide AM coffee service to Sir, ensuring Sir has His coffee the way He likes it right out of bed.
    • Bondage Collar: This boy should be in a kneeling present position and awaiting any order from Sir.  If kneeling is not appropriate then this boy will be in standing present.

    This is only a sampling – as each collar has numerous protocols and service expectations.  Each collar inherits the protocols before it, so as an example, the bondage collar represents all the controls for bondage, training, chain and daily collar types.  This makes it so that the collars build on each other.

    The collar types with associated protocols, rituals and services has been a great tool to structure our BDSM dynamic.  What this boy most appreciates about this structure is that he can clearly understand what is expected of him based on what collar Sir has placed him in.  

    How is collaring evolving in our relationship?

     Both Sir and His boy agree that collaring has been a significant part of our D/s dynamic, and therefore we continue to grow with this and be clear with each other on expectations and challenges.  During a recent conversation about collaring, a number of areas were identified for growth and improvement.  We continue to work through these as a means to strengthen our commitment.

    Sir identified a challenge where it sometimes isn’t clear to Him when His boy is done with work and able to be in a more service mindset.  While this boy always aims to serve, there are challenges during the work week, especially since this boy works from home which blurs any boundaries.  We are working to solve this through collaring, and this boy is now requesting Sir’s permission to wear His chain collar after the workday is done.  This has created a clear delineation in the day and feels like a much more natural transition.  Also, this boy has noticed that his stress levels go down immediately when Sir places the chain around His boy’s neck.

    Sir is often gone for business, and this leaves His boy to figure out collar changes on his own.  Our current collaring protocols do not define this well, and His boy identified this as a challenge area.  This boy wants to honor Sir’s collars and His expectations for them, and feels he needs more structure to know when to collar and change collars for Sir.

    The current daily-collar isn’t shower or workout friendly, which requires this boy to remove it at times throughout the day.  Sir’s collar gives this boy such an incredible sense of security that removing it, even for a brief period, interrupts this boy’s sense of connectedness.  Therefore, a more durable daily-collar could reduce and/or eliminate the need for most removals.

    Lastly, protocols, rituals and services tied to each collar continue to evolve as Sir sees fit to help with His boy’s growth and development.  This is a constant evolution that will continue to morph and change as Sir’s needs and expectations change.  

    This boy is grateful to wear Sir’s collars, and wears each of them with a sense of pride and gratitude.  This boy looks forward to this continued evolution as we work to make our D/s dynamic stronger and more resilient.

    What role does collaring play in your relationship? How have your collaring expectations changed over time and where do you see them going?

    Approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • Achieving Fitness Goals: July 2025 Results

    Achieving Fitness Goals: July 2025 Results

    “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt

    Each month, boy s37 will report results based on the fitness goals that Sir Zuegi has approved for us. His boy will then present the results to Sir and get further instructions and guidance. Learn more about our Dom/sub fitness training dynamic and how these results are actioned on.

    boy s37 results –

    ORDER Name: Body Measures and Pics

    SIR’S COMMAND: This boy will submit for body image and measurement reporting on the first of each month. Body measures will be promptly recorded and reported to Sir with His boy being held accountable for progress towards His goals.

    Results Comparison: 

    Outcome Trends: < open trends >

    Sir’s approved long-term goals and related targets for boy s37:

    • My boy s37 will develop a physique that is pleasing to me and that aligns with an athletic and muscular build with a targeted body fat percentage of 10-15%, a chest measure of 40”, bicep measures of 14”, a shoulder measure of 46” and thigh measures of 24”. >> Increase in chest (.05″), increase in waist (.12″), increase in belly (.92″), increase in body fat % (.1). Decrease or no change in bicep, shoulders and thigh size.
      • July target – My boy will maintain a weekly target of 800 pushups or more per week >> Your boy met or exceeded Your target each training week in July, for a total of 3752 pushups for the month.
      • July target – My boy will complete no less than 20 total workouts in July >> This jock boy exceeded this target by completing 24 workouts in July.
    • My boy s37 will develop and maintain a rock solid core with a chiseled and visible set of abs that’s pleasing to me. >> Upward trend in BF%, waist and belly size.
      • July target – My boy will meet or exceed 85% diet adherence with no more than 5 diet days (40 meals) not tracked in July >> Your boy exceeded this target with 90.5% diet adherence, and 2 diet days (16 meals) not tracked for July.
    • My boy s37 will develop and maintain excellent cardiovascular health and endurance so that he performs well for all of my required training. >> Increase in cardio & endurance type workouts and overall cardio/endurance.
      • Approved July target – My boy will get my permission for all alcohol consumption in July >> Your boy wasn’t successful achieving this goal, because often approval was implied when we drank together, and Your boy did not always explicitly request permission.
      • Approved July target – My boy will complete a minimum of two boxing workouts per week with a cardio and endurance focus >> This boy met this target by completing 2 boxing workouts for each training week in July.

    Sir requires His boy s37 to focus on the following goal targets in August:

    • boy will diversify his pushup routine to include regular, wide and narrow pushups and hit a goal of 60 per day.
    • boy will continue to track his diet and only not track meals approved by Sir.
    • boy will focus on getting back to performing a cardio workout once a week so long as his injury is not recurring.
    • boy will focus on maintaining a workout plan despite the focus on kitchen project.

    Learn more about s37’s workouts and progression on the jockboydiary.

    Sir Zuegi results –

    Results Comparison: 

    Outcome Trends: < open trends >

    Health & Fitness Goal Progress:

    • Sir Zuegi’s Long-term Goals:
      • I will build a more muscular physique and eat a balanced diet to maintain good health and physical form. A measurable goal of a 35 in waist, a 38″ belly and a targeted body fat percentage of 20%. >> Decrease in waist (.32″), decrease in belly (.44″), and decrease in body fat % (.3).

    Sir Zuegi’s goal targets for August:

    • I will use the new tracking tool to keep track of Aug data
    • I will continue to avoid carbs after lunch and focus on a clean diet
    • I will continue to perform at least 2 HIT workouts per week.

    Approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • Power Exchange: Establishing a Relationship Imbalance

    Power Exchange: Establishing a Relationship Imbalance

    “Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

    It was almost a year ago now that we began transforming our relationship into a D/s (Dominant/submissive) dynamic and embracing a leathermen lifestyle.  It has been a fun ride, and we have definitely faced some challenges along the way.  One of the greatest challenges has been defining a power exchange dynamic that supports and allows our D/s to grow.  In this blog entry, we will discuss some of the steps we are taking and some of the lessons we have learned along the way.

    First, the power exchange – notice that we are not calling it total power exchange (TPE) as it is often called in the BDSM community.  We decided early on that exchanging total power between us wasn’t practical.  We came to that conclusion after trying a couple of power exchange ideas and learning that they did little for our dynamic.  It was through this trial and error that we learned that total power exchange wasn’t practical for us.  So, we landed on power exchange (PE) without total-exchange being the goal.  Overcoming this mental barrier and understanding that power exchange didn’t have to be “total” in scope helped us establish a more practical approach for creating desired power imbalance in our relationship.

    The further we get into this D/s lifestyle, the more we’ve felt the benefits of having defined Dominant and submissive roles.  The deeper we go, the more we want, but at times our desires go beyond our knowledge of how to get deeper.  This is where new learning has helped, and through podcasts, books, and conferences we have learned techniques to expand our understanding and thinking about BDSM and power exchange.

    We recently listened to an episode of the Loving BDSM podcast titled, “How to Be Consistent in D/s | Making D/s Work in the Real World”.  This was an incredible episode, and it helped my Dom and I understand the need for practical application of power-exchange.  Early on, we had tried power exchange protocols around financial control, but we discovered that this did little for Him or His sub, and therefore it did not contribute to our dynamic.  Based on these past experiences and the new learning from the podcast, we sat down and discussed areas in our relationship where we felt power exchange could be more interesting and successful.  We wrote down our ideas, and from this, we came up with the following list:

    • Chores
    • Diet control
    • Fitness
    • Gear/Uniform
    • Goals
    • Grooming
    • Kink Events
    • Online Presence
    • Personal Care
    • Sexual Control

    As we discussed each area, we identified specific ideas where both Sir and His boy had a common interest.  If His boy had an interest but Sir did not, then it did not make the list and vice versa.  What we discovered is that we have many areas in our life with shared interest where Sir can focus on taking control from His boy.  The following are examples of ideas we are exploring further:

    • Diet control > Accountability
    • Diet control > Meal planning
    • Fitness > Boxing sport/practice
    • Fitness > Fitness goal progress
    • Gear/Uniform > Care, cleaning, organizing
    • Gear/Uniform > Earning and control of gear/uniform items
    • Gear/Uniform > Gear item wishlist

    With our list of specific ideas, we are now elaborating on how to achieve some of these.  Sir is prioritizing these discussions and determining what rituals and/or protocols are required to facilitate a power-exchange that satisfies Him.  We are right in the middle of this process, and our most recent changes are to better develop Fitness goals and how they are achieved.  You are beginning to see some of these changes here on this blog and at the jockboydiary.

    Sir and His boy look forward to further exploration of power-exchange in our D/s dynamic, and this boy is thankful to be accountable to Sir in new and expanding ways. In a future blog post, this boy will elaborate on specific power-exchange examples and how they contribute to our D/s.

    What are ways you are using power exchange in your relationship? What are some challenges you have faced along the way and have you been able to overcome them?

    Approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.