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  • Evolution of Health and Fitness in Our Dom/sub Dynamic

    Evolution of Health and Fitness in Our Dom/sub Dynamic

    “If there is no struggle, there is no progress.”

    Health and fitness is one of the core tenants of our D/s dynamic. Earlier this year, this boy wrote about how we incorporated health and fitness into our dynamic, and the rituals we use to share progress and stay on track.  Here, Sir’s boy will elaborate on how things are progressing with a focus on what has worked and what hasn’t and some adjustments we are making along the way.

    The first step in our health and fitness dynamic was setting goals.  Sir’s long term goals for us are written to be achievable in a one year timeframe.  With half the year over, we’re learning that setting short term goals is equally as important as long term goals. For example, this boy has an approved goal to improve cardiovascular health and endurance, but at this point in the year, this boy has not made significant progress in this area. Setting a short term goal to run x miles per week, or to get into the boxing gym x times per week would be a way to make progress while working towards the long-term goal achievement. So, having short term focused goal milestones that support our long term goals has been necessary for us to make consistent measurable progress. 

    Tracking is an important aspect of our dynamic, and seeing measurable progress towards goals is critical for motivation and focus. However, focusing primarily on muscle growth leaves blind spots that don’t highlight forward progress in other areas. We have found it equally important to measure habits that lead to long term growth. For example, measuring weekly pushups completed has helped this boy understand how progress towards overall improved chest growth is working towards achieving Sir’s approved goal. So, we have found that measuring things that lead to good habits in addition to body measures results in better long-term development.

    We have added service aspects to our dynamic, and many have fallen flat. For example, we experimented with this boy providing Sir with workouts He can complete. We also experimented with this boy making protein shakes for Sir after His workouts.  These attempts have failed to contribute to our overall dynamic due to scheduling or other issues making service inconsistent or impractical. Our finding is that we need to spend more time up front discussing service ideas to make sure they are practical and contribute to our overall dynamic. Otherwise, service can lead to inconsistency, and inconsistency erodes the quality of a D/s dynamic very quickly. 

    Rituals and scenes have been vital to our dynamic. Our monthly measurement and reporting scene is key to leveling on expectations and for setting future direction. A key discovery for this boy is that waiting a full month to discuss progress is not enough to keep the dynamic juices flowing. This is an area where we are leaning in and making adjustments. For example, this boy now has weekly short-term goals where progress is shared online with the community. Boy s37 believes there is also an opportunity to start sharing this with Sir so that there is improved visibility. In addition, this boy has started to share a daily workout plan and schedule with Sir during our AM ritual. This has been a major improvement to keep our health & fitness dynamic present and top of mind each day. Sharing this with Sir daily keeps His boy accountable and increases vulnerability thus improving headspace that contributes to the overall D/s dynamic. A key takeaway is that you can’t discuss this stuff enough. Be willing to go the distance and increase your vulnerability so that it improves your headspace.

    Our latest focus is on establishing service with a focus on what works for us. It is of vital importance for this sub to feel he is providing service to Sir that He appreciates and that this boy can be successful delivering. We have been focused on areas of power exchange and discussing ideas at great length where we both have common interest (more on this in a future post).  We both have a major interest in diet control, and specifically, we have identified meal planning as an area for service so that we can both eat better.  We recently sat down and discussed meal planning, and narrowed it down to the following service dynamic addition:

    • Sir requires His boy to create a weekly meal plan and to present it each Sunday at the AM ritual if both Sir and His boy are home.

    We kept this service open ended enough where it can evolve over time, and where Sir can dial up or dial down His expectations based on His needs and His boy’s availability. As an example, we didn’t define who cooks the meals so that we can keep this practical and He can layer in future expectations to keep this dynamic interesting.    A key takeaway is that service must be practical and requires a lot of discussion, discovery and experimentation to get it dialed in.

    And last but not least, it is critical to understand that a D/s dynamic must change over time. Things come up, health issues arise, and being overly rigid can sound hot, but ultimately it can erode headspace and the feeling of engagement. We continue to increase our communication about our health & fitness dynamic, because the more we talk, the deeper we get in the dynamic. His expectations alone aren’t going to make His boy successful – but his willingness to be vulnerable for Sir and to work hard at making incremental improvements is key to realizing our desired outcomes. 

    What are your successes and failures with measured dynamic outcomes? How have your expectations changed over time as your D/s dynamic evolves?

    Written by s37 and approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • Mastering Diet Control: A Day in the Life of boy s37

    Mastering Diet Control: A Day in the Life of boy s37

    “Good habits are worth being fanatical about.” – John Irving

    I have had many ups and downs with my diet over the years.  I have spent much time in the gym lifting weights and putting in the work, all to drive slower than expected results due to poor diet control.  Everything you read about diet tends to be complex and difficult to maintain over time.  It can be hard to break it all down and figure out how to eat right to support growth.  And, what is right for one person might not work the same for someone else.  So, implementing diet control, for me, has been challenging to say the least.

    My Dom does not directly require diet control per His goals for me.  However, in order for me to achieve His approved goals, then I know I must eat in a way that will feed growth and support His desired outcomes.  Therefore, getting my diet right is critical for delivering results for Him.  

    Here, I will share a day in the life of boy s37 from a diet perspective, and how I think about diet and diet tracking.  I will then share how we use ‘diet control ’ as part of our D/s dynamic.  I will share some of my behind the scenes struggles with dieting, and some of the wants and desires I have related to diet control and submission.

    Right after I wake, I consume the first meal of the day – breakfast.  If it is a workout day I follow the workout day meal plan, otherwise I follow the non-workout plan which has fewer calories.  I use the master meal plan printouts I have posted up in the kitchen as a guide for the 2500 calorie per day meal plan.  This is a meal plan I have been using for quite some time, and when I follow it, I get good growth results.  Once this meal is consumed, I open my weekly health tracker and mark meal 1 as ‘HIT’ for the day. 

    At approximately 10am, I prepare and consume the second meal of the day.  Again, I follow the meal plan based on whether it is a workout or non-workout day.  Generally, this meal is a small to medium red potato, cottage cheese, nuts and a piece of fruit.  Once this meal is consumed, I open the health tracker and mark meal 2 as ‘HIT’ for the day.

    The 3rd and 4th meals of the day vary depending on whether it is a workout day or not.  If it is a workout day, I consume a pre-workout snack and protein as meal 3, and then I consume a spinach, protein, nuts and berry shake for meal 4.  If it is a non-workout day, I follow the meal plan as scripted for meals 3 and 4.  Once these are consumed, I update the health tracker for these meals.

    The 5th meal of the day is dinner and I follow the meal plan’s general guidance for this.  Once dinner is consumed, I update the health tracker for meal 5 as ‘HIT’.

    About an hour before bed, I prepare the 6th meal of the day.  This is a bedtime snack, and it is always greek yogurt with frozen berries.  This doesn’t exactly follow the diet guideline, but I enjoy this slight deviation and have been able to make it habitual.  Once this last meal of the day is consumed, I update the health tracker for meal 6 as ‘HIT’.

    Any meal throughout the day that doesn’t meet the diet guidelines is marked as ‘MISS’.  If a meal is missed entirely, then this automatically becomes a ‘MISS’.  For each day, I also track hydration.  If I generally stay hydrated, then I mark this as a ‘HIT’ for the day.  I also track alcohol consumption, and if I consume alcohol as more than just a dinner accompaniment, then this becomes a ‘MISS’ for the day.  I generally allow myself one to two glasses of wine with dinner, and I do not count this as a miss.

    So, with six meals per day plus alcohol and hydration, that makes 8 things to mark as either HIT or MISS each day.  So, in any given week, I am tracking 8*7=56 diet entries as ‘HIT’ or ‘MISS’.  Notice that I am not tracking calories and other macro nutrients.  This has greatly simplified my ability to track this and remain compliant.  Simplicity is the key to successful diet control.

    This diet plan has worked well for me, but there are a number of challenges.  I used to have a bad habit of missing meals 3 and 4 on workout days, because I just don’t have enough time to eat all those meals and workout.  Therefore, I tweaked workout days to combine meals 3 and 4.  The other complication is reporting honestly.  Say I go out for dinner, have a decent steak dinner, but eat fries with it.  Do I count this as a ‘HIT’ since it was mostly in line with my diet?  If I’m being honest with myself and with my Dom, then I count this as a MISS because those fries are not compliant with my meal plan.  My other issue is alcohol.  Alcohol makes me tired and dehydrated the next day, and I tend to miss diet meals after drinking.  I have learned that I must limit alcohol consumption in order to stay focused, positive, and making gains.

    The other issue is disruptions to the pattern of eating and tracking.  If I’m travelling for work or for leisure, then all hell breaks loose, and it is extremely hard to maintain diet.  If I know I’m not going to be able to remain compliant on certain days or for certain meals, then I mark them as ‘NA’ – not applicable – and I don’t track them.  I always confirm with Sir when I am marking days or meals as NA that way He is aware that His boy is intentionally skipping tracking.  Racking up a bunch of MISS’es when traveling can trigger a failure loop, and failure tends to beget more failure, so I avoid this situation whenever possible to remain positive and compliant.

    So, you’ve read this far, and maybe you are starting to wonder exactly how all of this is part of a Dom/sub dynamic?  Each month, I report to Sir the percentage of meals that met diet compliance.  You will find this information on my monthly measures trend, under ‘Monthly Diet Adherence’.  Sir then determines if my performance was inline with the expectations that He sets and communicates to me each month as part of our monthly check-in scene.  As an example, Sir has given His boy a goal of 85% for February 2025, and if I hit that target, then perhaps I will be rewarded.  If I miss it, then I may be punished for it.

    There are many things I fantasize about from a control perspective.  I enjoy being obedient and having this diet adherence goal to work towards and it really does help me focus.  I wish there were more day to day protocols that prevented me from breaking with the diet plan.  An example of this would be being required to ask Sir’s permission to ‘MISS’ any given meal target.  This would remind me that Sir ultimately controls the outcome so long as His boy remains structured and obedient.  We have only just begun to experiment with rewards and punishments for missing diet control targets.  To date, this boy has always hit the target that Sir sets, so this really is a powerful tool to help me stay on target.

    Thus far, I have seen growth on this plan.  The real control dynamic comes when I report growth targets to Sir that demonstrate that this diet is working towards the goals that He has approved.  So far this year I am cutting, seeing chest growth, and improvements in arm, shoulder and thigh size.  None of this happens fast, but the numbers are trending in the right direction, which means that my discipline and focus are driving towards Sir’s desired outcomes.

    You can see current diet compliance details for boy s37 on the jockboydiary blog – this is where he tracks health and fitness progress on a day to day basis.

    What are Y/your trials and tribulations with dieting and remaining consistent to support growth targets?  Have Y/you experimented with Dom/sub dynamics related to diet control?  If so, what have Y/you found that works well? What do Y/you fantasize about in terms of health and fitness control?

  • Health & Fitness as a Dynamic

    Health & Fitness as a Dynamic

    “Do something today that your future self will thank you for.“ – Sean Patrick Flanery

    What does it mean to mix health and fitness with a BDSM dynamic to drive towards your desired outcomes? As I explore my own interests with BDSM and health & fitness, I consider this question and the potential to bring these two together in interesting ways.  Both interests stand on their own, but the intersection of BDSM and health & fitness create unique opportunities for shared accountability.  Both my Dom and I are quite interested in health & fitness and we have each made it a goal to keep ourselves fit.  As we explore our emerging Dom/sub dynamic, health & fitness continues to be a key part of the dynamic we are working towards.  We will explore this further and share where we are today, and where we see this headed in the future.

    From a sub perspective, I want to be fit, I want to be healthy, and I want to be held accountable for achieving those desired outcomes.  During our goal defining talks, we discussed our shared interest in improving our health & fitness for each other.  My Dom is aware of His boy’s athletic nature, and is very supportive of his boy’s desire to grow physically stronger and more athletic for Him.  He is aware that His boy doesn’t desire to be a bodybuilder, but rather an athletic and muscular boy that maintains fitness as a lifestyle.  Thankfully, this is something that we share in common, but reconciling our differences and understanding our commonalities was the first step in creating our emerging D/s dynamic.

    I am equally energized by seeing my Dom succeed, and for Him to pursue His personal health and fitness goals.  While it can be challenging for a sub to hold a Dom accountable – we made His goals a central part of our overall dynamic.  His boy assists Him with His measures, His diet tracking, and also ensuring that Sir has workout plans that are both effective and tuned to His specific liking.  

    To make our health & fitness BDSM dynamic take shape, we have established measurement protocols that allow for continuous monitoring and analysis of our progress towards our approved health & fitness goals.  On the first of each month, we go through the process of collecting measures specific to our established goals, and then His boy compiles this information and presents it to Sir as part of a health & fitness accountability session.

    What does it look like to then take action on this measurement info?  You can view Sir Zuegi’s monthly measure collection, and see how He is progressing towards His defined goals.  And, you can view boy s37’s monthly measure collection, and see how he is progressing towards his defined goals.  The second step in creating this dynamic was for His boy to collect this data, organize it, and make it visible to Sir.  This is a service that this boy provides and one that Sir Zuegi expects.  Beyond that, boy s37 maintains a health & fitness jockboy diary blog that chronicles his day to day actions to stay accountable for required outcomes.

    The final step in creating our health & fitness dynamic is maintaining on-going lasting accountability.  This is a work in progress, but a scene document has been drafted to document this and explore what that might look like.  This boy maintains the data and analysis for Sir so that He can keep His leather household accountable for His approved and expected outcomes.  In addition, His boy can seek ways that he can assist Sir with achieving these outcomes by creating more opportunities.  Examples of this are preparing clean meals, writing workout plans, and maintaining the gym space.

    We are in the early stages of establishing this dynamic, but we both remain very excited about where we are and where we see this going.  Staying true to the mission of this blog, we will publish more info on our progress and details about what works and what doesn’t.  Starting in early February 2025, boy s37 will publish outcomes each month about how Sir Zuegi and His boy are progressing towards defined health and fitness goal targets.  The purpose of these public posts is to create exposure to help us stay motivated and accountable.

    Do you use BDSM as an accountability dynamic for health and fitness goals, and if so, what has your experience been?  What has worked, and what hasn’t worked?