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  • Locktober Chastity Celebration

    Locktober Chastity Celebration

    “The body achieves what the mind believes.”

    To celebrate this locktober, Sir Zuegi is requiring His boy to be locked and to reflect on chastity service throughout the month. Sir Zuegi and His boy s37 will each answer the following questions about their chastity experience. Enjoy, and hope you are having a great locktober!

    How did you first start playing with chastity?

    Sir Zuegi: With my boy when he presented the idea before our D/s dynamic began. I enjoyed the feeling of him being locked unable to experience orgasm and I experimented with it also so I understand the mental and physical control it takes.

    boy s37: In my early 20s with a CB-6000 device. Still have one of the devices for nostalgia. This boy would frequently self lock, and sometimes lock for a keyholder.

    What has been your biggest learning experience with chastity?

    Sir Zuegi: Learning how to read and understand my boys capacity with chastity. 

    boy s37: Learning to wear it 24×7. At first, sleeping in chastity was near impossible – the pain from wood in the middle of the night was unbearable. Lots of vasaline and baby oil. Today, this boy can sleep through the night in chastity with little to no pain/discomfort.

    What is your favorite aspect of chastity control?

    Sir Zuegi: Knowing that my boy is caged and that he feels my control over his cock. 

    boy s37: Currently, the control over the device itself. This boy is not allowed to ask Sir to wear it, and Sir controls when and if His boy is in it. Often, the times without the chastity device are the most difficult, because this boy has grown used to the security and feeling of it.

    What is a new chastity experience you’d like to try?

    Sir Zuegi: Release without removing the cage. 

    boy s37: More trigger based lock/unlock periods based on how this boy has performed towards specific goals or targets. Have always liked the idea of chastity being dependent on specific outcomes that are of interest and please my Dom.

    What advice do you have for someone just starting out with chastity?

    Sir Zuegi: Begin slowly. It’s a path of mind over matter.

    boy s37: take it slow, and enjoy every aspect/moment of the experience. It takes a lot of time to adapt, and enjoyment comes from the journey and learning along the way.

    Final thoughts: boy s37 would like to thank Sir Zuegi for allowing His boy to participate in locktober this year, and for making this boy present and aware of his chastity service for Sir.

    What role does chastity play in your dynamic? Are you participating in locktober, and if so, how?

    Approved for posting by Sir Zuegi.

  • Chastity Q&A

    Chastity Q&A

    “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” – Robert J. Collier

    In this blog entry, Sir Zuegi and boy s37 will respond to five questions about s37’s chastity service. Both Sir Zuegi and s37 are aware of each other’s questions, but will not have visibility into each other’s answers until this is published.   

     

    Question 1:

    s37: What does it mean to boy s37 to be locked in chastity for Sir Zuegi?

    >> I view being locked in chastity as one of the greatest gestures and sacrifices I can make to Sir as His disciplined leatherboy. My suppression of my own sexual impulses for Him is a testament of my commitment and my willingness to put His needs before my own. 

    We recently attended a class at CLAW LA, where a Dom/sub couple were presenting on their dynamic, and the Dom showcased His sub’s locked cock in the class by pulling it out from his jock pouch.  His Sir then said, “I have the dick, and he has the hole.”  It was a  perfect display of power play exchange between a Dom and His sub, and it is how I feel about my privilege to serve Sir in chastity and demonstrate my willingness to serve.  

    Sir Zuegi: What does it mean to Sir Zuegi to lock His boy s37 in chastity?

    >> It means having control over both his sexual and mental desires. Its restricting access and making him think of me with a physical reminder.

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    Question 2:

    s37: How often does boy s37 get to unlock, and how does it feel to be unlocked?

    >> As I write this, I am unlocked and on an airplane sitting next to Sir.  I dislike being unlocked, because when I am unlocked it is much harder for me to maintain sub headspace and it forces me to be more self disciplined and not to give in to temptation. Having sexual urges while being unlocked means staying focused on the fact that Sir has complete control over my dick even when I’m not caged for Him. Is this good training for His boy?  Yes, but I definitely prefer feeling the safety of the cage when Sir has me locked and He holds the key. 

    Sir Zuegi: How often does Sir Zuegi allow His boy to unlock, and how does it feel to You for s37 to be unlocked?

    >> I prefer he’s only unlocked when necessary, like for travel or practical reasons. I prefer boy to be locked and I feel when he is unlocked his mindspace isn’t the same.

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    Question 3:

    s37: Is it okay for boy s37 to ask or beg to be unlocked, and if allowed to unlock, does this mean that boy s37 is then allowed to cum?

    >> There is an unwritten rule between us that I do not beg to be unlocked and I only ask to be unlocked when appropriate, such as when passing through airport security. As a sub, I hate begging – it isn’t my thing, and I’m not the type of sub that wants to emphasize my desires/needs over that of Sir’s. So, I don’t beg, and I don’t think that begging is something that Sir desires to see me do. 

    As for being allowed to cum – I do not associate being unlocked with that privilege.  Another unwritten rule is that I ask Sir to cum and receive permission before I am allowed.  To me, this is an important part of being a disciplined leatherboy.

    Sir Zuegi: Is it okay for Your boy to ask or beg to be unlocked, and if allowed to unlock by You, does this mean Your boy s37 is then allowed to cum?

    >> Yes it is ok to beg to be unlocked and I if granted I would approve of boy to cum as it is necessary to stay physically and mentally fit.

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    Question 4:

    s37: How does boy s37 remain committed to chastity service and ensure Sir Zuegi remains aware of His boy’s time in chastity?

    >> Early on in the development of our dynamic we created a ritual/protocol that each morning I kneel in front of Sir, thank Him for being locked (or unlocked), and then let Him know how many days since my last allowed uncaged release. I have found this to be an incredibly important ritual, because it helps me maintain a service mindset.  When I am not physically present in front of Sir, then I text Him this exchange.

    Before this ritual was created, it was hard to keep my chastity top of mind and it almost became background. This ritual really allows me to connect with Sir each day over this privilege/sacrifice – and I am extremely thankful to have this moment with Him each day to demonstrate my dedication to being disciplined in this way.

    Sir Zuegi: How does Sir Zuegi remain committed to His boy’s chastity service, and ensure His boy remains constantly aware of his time in chastity?

    >> I require he remains locked or asked to be unlocked even when we are separated.

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    Question 5:

    s37: What is the one change boy s37 would like to see with chastity service that he has not yet communicated to Sir Zuegi?

    >> As a good leatherboy, I think I should feel thankful to be locked full time and to suppress all my inner desires to feel pleasure through my locked cock. However, there is a part of me that still wants to feel pleasure. My desire would be to experience edging either as denial or as part of some form of gratification as part of my chastity service.  What I would get from this is two fold – demonstrating my ability to control orgasm for Sir by only cumming with His approval, and to satisfy a need to still feel pleasure knowing full well that it might only lead to frustration. However, I feel that both aspects would demonstrate my dedication to being a disciplined leatherboy.

    Sir Zuegi: What is the one change Sir Zuegi would like to see with chastity service that He has not yet communicated to His boy?

    >> When unlocked boy has his device near him as a reminder that even though he is unlocked he will be locked again.

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    Check s37’s current chastity lock status.

    Are you locked in chastity or a Dom/keyholder for someone locked?  If so, what role does chastity play in Y/your dynamic, and what is Y/your favorite aspect of chastity play?

  • Planning for Growth

    Planning for Growth

    “You must do things that you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

    In a time not so far away, I would’ve only dreamt of living in a full-time 24×7 D/s dynamic.  But, with courage, the power of communication, and goal setting and planning, we are on our way to achieving just that.

    I have always been a somewhat goal oriented person.  But, there is a catch – deep down – I want to make that achievement for someone else.  I want to be accepted and rewarded for good behavior and corrected and disciplined when I veer off.  I want to improve for my Sir, and improve in areas that will please Him most.  I want to feel His support and I want to submit to Him for my failings so that I am fully accountable to Him.  I want to be there for Him in ways that He needs me to be so that I am part of His growth and development.  Together, I want us to achieve great things and to grow together.

    In late 2024, we set out to define goals to further our pursuit of BDSM and to achieve greater health and wellness.  As much as I’d like to just be assigned goals and told what I will achieve, there is a practical aspect required to truly implement a healthy 24×7 D/s dynamic.  Therefore, we approached this in a much more collaborative way.  Over the course of several sessions, we drafted and iterated on a set of goals that we felt could be achieved and that would further our growth.  What made this possible was open and transparent communication, and the willingness to be open with each other about what we want for ourselves as well as for each other.

    To anchor our goal setting process in BDSM, each goal and/or goal change must be presented and approved by Sir.  This gives Sir ultimate authority and control over what His boy is focused on.  We completed this process, and Sir has approved each of the following goals:

    Leather Lifestyle Goals:

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy and I will work to implement leather lifestyle and BDSM principles to support our growth as individuals and as life partners.  I will work to grow in my role as Dom, and my boy s37 will work to grow in his role as my collared sub.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy and I will create and maintain a contract and set of leathermen household protocols to live by.  I expect My boy to enter a service contract with me and follow my required protocols.

     [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy and I will attend leather and BDSM oriented community events.  I expect my boy to demonstrate respect and to represent us well at all events I allow him to attend.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy will practice leather care in his role as my bootblack.  I expect him to be learning and practicing to ensure proper care of all of our leather household gear.

    Learning Goals:

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] We will each be learning new BDSM techniques to further our growth and development.  This will include books, videos and hands-on training classes and seminars.  I expect my boy to regularly share his  learnings, findings and experiences.

    Health & Fitness Goals:

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 22-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will develop a physique that is pleasing to me and that aligns with an athletic and muscular build with a targeted body fat percentage of 10-15%, a chest measure of 40”, bicep measures of 14”, a shoulder measure of 46” and thigh measures of 24”.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will develop and maintain a rock solid core with a chiseled and visible set of abs that’s pleasing to me.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will develop and maintain excellent cardiovascular health and endurance so that he performs well for all of my required training.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will track and maintain our fitness progress through body measurements and regular performance tracking and make this info available for greater accountability.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will be held responsible for delivering measurable progress towards his health & fitness goals as well as towards mine.  I expect my boy to assist me in whatever ways necessary to ensure we are both delivering measurable results that satisfy me.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] I will build a more muscular physique and eat a balanced diet to maintain good health and physical form. A measurable goal of a 35 in waist, a 38″ belly and a targeted body fat percentage of 20%.

    Community Goals:

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] I expect my boy to volunteer for one or more leather/BDSM organizations as a means to give back to the community.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] I expect my boy to maintain a public facing blog that supports writings around my goals for him, and other topics of interest that I assign and approve for him.

    I would encourage anyone into BDSM to define goals and doing so collaboratively in a relationship makes a lot of sense.  You can add a D/s aspect by layering in protocols for goal approval, goal review and goal progress checks.  Set achievable goals, but also some that will push you and drive you towards growth. 

    The purpose of this blog is to showcase writings about goal progress and achievements throughout the year as required by Sir’s approved community goal for his boy.  Stay tuned for progress updates as well as info on goal progress and challenges as we progress through the year.

    Do you have goals as part of your BDSM dynamic?  If so, leave a comment below and share any recommendations you have on how to incorporate goals and manage to them as part of a kink dynamic.