Booted and Bound

Author: s37

  • Chastity Q&A

    Chastity Q&A

    “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” – Robert J. Collier

    In this blog entry, Sir Zuegi and boy s37 will respond to five questions about s37’s chastity service. Both Sir Zuegi and s37 are aware of each other’s questions, but will not have visibility into each other’s answers until this is published.   

     

    Question 1:

    s37: What does it mean to boy s37 to be locked in chastity for Sir Zuegi?

    >> I view being locked in chastity as one of the greatest gestures and sacrifices I can make to Sir as His disciplined leatherboy. My suppression of my own sexual impulses for Him is a testament of my commitment and my willingness to put His needs before my own. 

    We recently attended a class at CLAW LA, where a Dom/sub couple were presenting on their dynamic, and the Dom showcased His sub’s locked cock in the class by pulling it out from his jock pouch.  His Sir then said, “I have the dick, and he has the hole.”  It was a  perfect display of power play exchange between a Dom and His sub, and it is how I feel about my privilege to serve Sir in chastity and demonstrate my willingness to serve.  

    Sir Zuegi: What does it mean to Sir Zuegi to lock His boy s37 in chastity?

    >> It means having control over both his sexual and mental desires. Its restricting access and making him think of me with a physical reminder.

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    Question 2:

    s37: How often does boy s37 get to unlock, and how does it feel to be unlocked?

    >> As I write this, I am unlocked and on an airplane sitting next to Sir.  I dislike being unlocked, because when I am unlocked it is much harder for me to maintain sub headspace and it forces me to be more self disciplined and not to give in to temptation. Having sexual urges while being unlocked means staying focused on the fact that Sir has complete control over my dick even when I’m not caged for Him. Is this good training for His boy?  Yes, but I definitely prefer feeling the safety of the cage when Sir has me locked and He holds the key. 

    Sir Zuegi: How often does Sir Zuegi allow His boy to unlock, and how does it feel to You for s37 to be unlocked?

    >> I prefer he’s only unlocked when necessary, like for travel or practical reasons. I prefer boy to be locked and I feel when he is unlocked his mindspace isn’t the same.

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    Question 3:

    s37: Is it okay for boy s37 to ask or beg to be unlocked, and if allowed to unlock, does this mean that boy s37 is then allowed to cum?

    >> There is an unwritten rule between us that I do not beg to be unlocked and I only ask to be unlocked when appropriate, such as when passing through airport security. As a sub, I hate begging – it isn’t my thing, and I’m not the type of sub that wants to emphasize my desires/needs over that of Sir’s. So, I don’t beg, and I don’t think that begging is something that Sir desires to see me do. 

    As for being allowed to cum – I do not associate being unlocked with that privilege.  Another unwritten rule is that I ask Sir to cum and receive permission before I am allowed.  To me, this is an important part of being a disciplined leatherboy.

    Sir Zuegi: Is it okay for Your boy to ask or beg to be unlocked, and if allowed to unlock by You, does this mean Your boy s37 is then allowed to cum?

    >> Yes it is ok to beg to be unlocked and I if granted I would approve of boy to cum as it is necessary to stay physically and mentally fit.

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    Question 4:

    s37: How does boy s37 remain committed to chastity service and ensure Sir Zuegi remains aware of His boy’s time in chastity?

    >> Early on in the development of our dynamic we created a ritual/protocol that each morning I kneel in front of Sir, thank Him for being locked (or unlocked), and then let Him know how many days since my last allowed uncaged release. I have found this to be an incredibly important ritual, because it helps me maintain a service mindset.  When I am not physically present in front of Sir, then I text Him this exchange.

    Before this ritual was created, it was hard to keep my chastity top of mind and it almost became background. This ritual really allows me to connect with Sir each day over this privilege/sacrifice – and I am extremely thankful to have this moment with Him each day to demonstrate my dedication to being disciplined in this way.

    Sir Zuegi: How does Sir Zuegi remain committed to His boy’s chastity service, and ensure His boy remains constantly aware of his time in chastity?

    >> I require he remains locked or asked to be unlocked even when we are separated.

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    Question 5:

    s37: What is the one change boy s37 would like to see with chastity service that he has not yet communicated to Sir Zuegi?

    >> As a good leatherboy, I think I should feel thankful to be locked full time and to suppress all my inner desires to feel pleasure through my locked cock. However, there is a part of me that still wants to feel pleasure. My desire would be to experience edging either as denial or as part of some form of gratification as part of my chastity service.  What I would get from this is two fold – demonstrating my ability to control orgasm for Sir by only cumming with His approval, and to satisfy a need to still feel pleasure knowing full well that it might only lead to frustration. However, I feel that both aspects would demonstrate my dedication to being a disciplined leatherboy.

    Sir Zuegi: What is the one change Sir Zuegi would like to see with chastity service that He has not yet communicated to His boy?

    >> When unlocked boy has his device near him as a reminder that even though he is unlocked he will be locked again.

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    Check s37’s current chastity lock status.

    Are you locked in chastity or a Dom/keyholder for someone locked?  If so, what role does chastity play in Y/your dynamic, and what is Y/your favorite aspect of chastity play?

  • Achieving Fitness Goals: January 2025 Results

    Achieving Fitness Goals: January 2025 Results

    “Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.”

    We recently posted the blog entry Health & Fitness as a Dynamic, which further describes how we have incorporated BDSM into our health and fitness dynamic. Each month, boy s37 will post combined results based on the goals that Sir Zuegi has approved. The following are results reported for January 2025:

    boy s37 results –

    ORDER Name: Body Measures and Pics
    Due Date: 2025-01-31

    SIR’S COMMAND: This boy will submit for body image and measurement reporting on the first of each month. The boy will accurately report weight in pounds, and waist, hip, abdomen, chest, neck, shoulder, left/right thigh, left/right arm, and left/right calf circumference measures in inches, and the boy’s calculated body fat %. These body measures will be promptly recorded and reported to SIR with body measure changes trended over time.

    Measures Completion Details: SIR, YOUR boy is reporting the following measures details for the January 2025 training period SIR –

    Current and Last Month Measures Comparison: 

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    Measurement Trends: < open trends >

    Your boy’s general observations:

    Order’s given by SIR in DEC:

    • SIR, for JAN-2025 You gave Your boy a target of maintaining diet compliant at 85% or greater for all meals.  >> SIR, Your boy delivered a meal target of 91.61% for JAN and exceeded Your set target SIR. By comparison, Your boy improved diet compliance by 5.81% over DEC-2024 results SIR.
      • 9 days in January not diet tracked as a result of travel.
    • SIR, for JAN-2025 You asked for more chest focus to see a size increase.  >> Your boy added a dedicated chest-day workout day each week in addition to doing 100+ pushups on all other workout days.

    Workout consistency in JAN:

    • SIR, Your boy missed 0 scheduled workouts in JAN. 
    • SIR, Your boy delivered 18 workouts in JAN, the same as DEC.  This was lower than expected due to travel in JAN.
    • This boy had 13 rest days in January due to travel, which was higher than average.

    Notable body measure changes in JAN:

    • Increase in chest size by half an inch.
    • Increase in body-fat likely caused by number of days not on diet in January.

    Feedback & Challenges in JAN:

    • January was very challenging because too many days were not tracked with no workouts during travel periods.  I need to find better ways to sustain some diet and physical activity during travel, because it makes it very hard to regain momentum after disruption.
    • Would like to start incorporating the boxing gym in February – both in Chicago and at home.

    SIR, Your boy requests Your review of these results and awaits any further instructions or feedback regarding this boy’s performance against the goals You have set SIR.

    SIR’s Instructions & Feedback: 

    • Continue to maintain diet adherence of 85% or better for February.
    • Improvement in number of workouts completed for the month of February.

    Learn more about s37’s fitness journey on the jockboydiary.

    SIR Zuegi results –

    Current and Last Month Measures Comparison: 

    Screenshot

    Measurement Trends: < open trends >

    General measure observations:

    Order’s given by SIR for the month of JAN:

    • My boy will design two cardio workouts per week for me to complete.  These will be up to an hour in length and can be made up of a mix of HIT, boxing and other cardio type exercises. >> Not great progress on this.  Developed an initial set of workouts at the beginning of the month. Do You wish to proceed with these , and if so, at what interval?
    • Tracker for meals, 1, 3, 5 and 6 >> Diet tracking was implemented to assist with better meal prep/eating habits.

    Notable body measure changes in JAN:

    • Increase in chest size by half an inch.
    • Increases in thigh and calf size.
    • Increase in body-fat %.
    • 77% diet adherence in January.

    Recommendations for FEB:

    • Recommend increasing cardio in order to balance calories with muscle gain.
    • Improved diet adherence with greater consistency across meals.

    Orders Given:

    • Continue to create cardio workouts.

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    Interested to learn more or have questions? Please contact us or leave a comment.

  • Self Development

    Self Development

    “We become what we want to be by consistently being what we want to become each day.”

    One of the biggest challenges adopting a D/s dynamic has been figuring out when and how to be in character.  Our current selves don’t possess all the Dom/sub characteristics that we would like to have.  We both desire to further develop into a future state that possesses all these characteristics of who we want to be, but where do you even start with all this change?

    For us, this comes down to character development.  We’re all playing a character in our day to day lives – characters that have been adapted to the norms we accept to be true and that embody our beliefs of who we are.  In order to change that character that we play, we first have to expose ourselves to new ideas and new truths.  We need to be able to define that future state self so that we can cast ourselves in those roles.  Sir Zuegi and I have been working on just that.

    Sir Zuegi has defined His future state character as a more Dominant role – one that would like more of His personal needs and desires cared for.  His character wants to take direct control over s37s physical self, so that He can get the specific outcomes that He desires from him.  He wants to draw out more of the obedient behavioral characteristics in s37 while training His boy to be less temperamental, less controlling and short with Him.   s37 has defined his future self character as a deeper submissive role and a boy that is much more subservient and loyal to Sir Zuegi.  s37 wants to greatly reduce his controlling ways where he must have everything his own way.  s37 sees making himself more vulnerable by focusing on the behaviors that Sir Ziuegi desires in him while also reducing the temperamental and short fused behaviors that make him feel irritable and dissatisfied.

    The idea of these future-self characters came from hours of communicating with each other.  One evening we sat down and listed the goals of our future state selves, and now, we are working towards learning these characters as a means to grow into our desired future-state roles.  Doing this work isn’t easy, and it is sometimes hard to know when to switch into these roles and how.  This is especially true if you live together 24×7 and are used to just being a certain way with each other.  We are currently experimenting with triggers, which are a means to remind you (trigger you) that you should be playing your new future state character.  Each time I find myself triggered, I go deeper into my headspace and make more of a conscious effort to possess my character’s desired state characteristics.  The hope is that eventually these characteristics become completely natural, and part of my subconscious self.

    We have a very exciting opportunity to create a new trigger and somewhat of a new lifestyle together.  We are planning to spend a decent amount of our time together in Chicago, which is away from our current home.  We are actively working to make the Chicago living arrangement a trigger for practicing our new future state characters.  We are actively going through the exercise of defining rituals and protocols that will make the Chicago experience feel different from our current home.  We think that being in a different environment will help us expand beyond our current norms and explore avenues and aspects of our personalities that we have not yet fully explored.  We are very excited to see how this experience changes us, and how these influences reshape the dynamic we have with each other as we work towards a robust 24×7 D/s relationship.

    One idea that excites this boy very much is Sir having an all leather wingback chair in the Chicago space that is one-hundred percent His domain.  This boy visualizes a deeper level of service towards Him in that chair.  We are in the beginning stages of defining this chair and its symbolism as a trigger for Him to reach His Dominant goals and for His boy to reach his submissive goals.  One idea is for this boy to always be in a standing or kneeling present position when Sir is in this chair and I happen to be in that same room.  We are currently collecting and writing down ideas for this trigger, and we are both extremely excited to see how this helps us to achieve greater role development.

    Growing a true BDSM relationship and working towards a 24×7 dynamic in a 24×7 relationship can be very challenging.  We continue to explore and to find ways to grow ourselves and our dynamic together.  We are discovering new and creative ways to get deeper and more immersive in the things we believe will get us closer to our desired goals.  

    What are techniques you have used to grow in a BDSM dynamic?  Have you been able to grow personally in your role, and if so, what led you to your greatest growth?

  • Health & Fitness as a Dynamic

    Health & Fitness as a Dynamic

    “Do something today that your future self will thank you for.“ – Sean Patrick Flanery

    What does it mean to mix health and fitness with a BDSM dynamic to drive towards your desired outcomes? As I explore my own interests with BDSM and health & fitness, I consider this question and the potential to bring these two together in interesting ways.  Both interests stand on their own, but the intersection of BDSM and health & fitness create unique opportunities for shared accountability.  Both my Dom and I are quite interested in health & fitness and we have each made it a goal to keep ourselves fit.  As we explore our emerging Dom/sub dynamic, health & fitness continues to be a key part of the dynamic we are working towards.  We will explore this further and share where we are today, and where we see this headed in the future.

    From a sub perspective, I want to be fit, I want to be healthy, and I want to be held accountable for achieving those desired outcomes.  During our goal defining talks, we discussed our shared interest in improving our health & fitness for each other.  My Dom is aware of His boy’s athletic nature, and is very supportive of his boy’s desire to grow physically stronger and more athletic for Him.  He is aware that His boy doesn’t desire to be a bodybuilder, but rather an athletic and muscular boy that maintains fitness as a lifestyle.  Thankfully, this is something that we share in common, but reconciling our differences and understanding our commonalities was the first step in creating our emerging D/s dynamic.

    I am equally energized by seeing my Dom succeed, and for Him to pursue His personal health and fitness goals.  While it can be challenging for a sub to hold a Dom accountable – we made His goals a central part of our overall dynamic.  His boy assists Him with His measures, His diet tracking, and also ensuring that Sir has workout plans that are both effective and tuned to His specific liking.  

    To make our health & fitness BDSM dynamic take shape, we have established measurement protocols that allow for continuous monitoring and analysis of our progress towards our approved health & fitness goals.  On the first of each month, we go through the process of collecting measures specific to our established goals, and then His boy compiles this information and presents it to Sir as part of a health & fitness accountability session.

    What does it look like to then take action on this measurement info?  You can view Sir Zuegi’s monthly measure collection, and see how He is progressing towards His defined goals.  And, you can view boy s37’s monthly measure collection, and see how he is progressing towards his defined goals.  The second step in creating this dynamic was for His boy to collect this data, organize it, and make it visible to Sir.  This is a service that this boy provides and one that Sir Zuegi expects.  Beyond that, boy s37 maintains a health & fitness jockboy diary blog that chronicles his day to day actions to stay accountable for required outcomes.

    The final step in creating our health & fitness dynamic is maintaining on-going lasting accountability.  This is a work in progress, but a scene document has been drafted to document this and explore what that might look like.  This boy maintains the data and analysis for Sir so that He can keep His leather household accountable for His approved and expected outcomes.  In addition, His boy can seek ways that he can assist Sir with achieving these outcomes by creating more opportunities.  Examples of this are preparing clean meals, writing workout plans, and maintaining the gym space.

    We are in the early stages of establishing this dynamic, but we both remain very excited about where we are and where we see this going.  Staying true to the mission of this blog, we will publish more info on our progress and details about what works and what doesn’t.  Starting in early February 2025, boy s37 will publish outcomes each month about how Sir Zuegi and His boy are progressing towards defined health and fitness goal targets.  The purpose of these public posts is to create exposure to help us stay motivated and accountable.

    Do you use BDSM as an accountability dynamic for health and fitness goals, and if so, what has your experience been?  What has worked, and what hasn’t worked? 

  • Being of Service

    Being of Service

    The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. – Mahatma Gandhi

    In the second half of 2024, my Dom and I started the process of taking our relationship in a new direction.  We decided to move towards a Dom/sub dynamic and to fully embrace the leathermen BDSM lifestyle. And with that, we took to educating ourselves and learning more about what that might look like.

    Few resources out there approach the effort of adapting an existing relationship with D/s. The more we read and learned about protocols and service, the more complex the effort began to look and feel. When you have been with someone for many years, norms that define your relationship naturally develop over time.  In our case, my Dom does many of the day to day chores around the house. However, I do much of our personal finances as well as many handyman type things.  Together we are also property managers, and so we are effectively in business together. Much of the control and dynamic in our relationship formed based on our individual skills and personalities. But, we both desire changing some of that. 

    I wanted something that looked different, and through much discussion, Sir Zuegi desired more control over us and over our household. I desperately want and feel the need to relinquish control to develop a stronger attachment to my leatherboy/sub identity and to Him. But as they say, wanting something and planning for it are two different things.

    We are still in the middle of this process, and I discuss with my Dom my desire to feel I am in more service to Him on a regular basis. Recently, for my birthday, I asked my Dom for a service I could give Him as my birthday gift. He established that His boy should make the bed for Him daily. I am now a month into providing this service to Him, and this very mundane thing I do for Him now feels very deep and personal and I look forward to doing this for Him every day.  And, as I have recently discovered, I can continue doing this for Him when we travel by making sure our hotel bed is made.  It is a simple thing, but with important symbolism.

    I want to serve Him more, and I do struggle with how to approach that and what specifically I can do for Him. I have to remind myself that this dynamic change is still new and that it is better to give it time and allow our relationship to redevelop based on newly established norms. We continue to communicate about this very often.  I am trying to balance my service need with better mindset focus, so that I regularly reflect on what I do for Him now. For example, my remaining locked in chastity for Him is an important way for me to serve Him based on His desire to have me locked. Also, I focus on my diet and workouts so that my physical fitness level better pleases Him. It is sometimes easy to forget what you are doing in favor of always wanting more. 

    We will continue to work on this in 2025, and I look forward to sharing with all of you how our D/s dynamic evolves over time. Have you been through the development of a D/s dynamic in your relationship?  If so, what did you learn along the way?  Leave a comment, we’d love to hear from you.

  • Planning for Growth

    Planning for Growth

    “You must do things that you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

    In a time not so far away, I would’ve only dreamt of living in a full-time 24×7 D/s dynamic.  But, with courage, the power of communication, and goal setting and planning, we are on our way to achieving just that.

    I have always been a somewhat goal oriented person.  But, there is a catch – deep down – I want to make that achievement for someone else.  I want to be accepted and rewarded for good behavior and corrected and disciplined when I veer off.  I want to improve for my Sir, and improve in areas that will please Him most.  I want to feel His support and I want to submit to Him for my failings so that I am fully accountable to Him.  I want to be there for Him in ways that He needs me to be so that I am part of His growth and development.  Together, I want us to achieve great things and to grow together.

    In late 2024, we set out to define goals to further our pursuit of BDSM and to achieve greater health and wellness.  As much as I’d like to just be assigned goals and told what I will achieve, there is a practical aspect required to truly implement a healthy 24×7 D/s dynamic.  Therefore, we approached this in a much more collaborative way.  Over the course of several sessions, we drafted and iterated on a set of goals that we felt could be achieved and that would further our growth.  What made this possible was open and transparent communication, and the willingness to be open with each other about what we want for ourselves as well as for each other.

    To anchor our goal setting process in BDSM, each goal and/or goal change must be presented and approved by Sir.  This gives Sir ultimate authority and control over what His boy is focused on.  We completed this process, and Sir has approved each of the following goals:

    Leather Lifestyle Goals:

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy and I will work to implement leather lifestyle and BDSM principles to support our growth as individuals and as life partners.  I will work to grow in my role as Dom, and my boy s37 will work to grow in his role as my collared sub.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy and I will create and maintain a contract and set of leathermen household protocols to live by.  I expect My boy to enter a service contract with me and follow my required protocols.

     [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy and I will attend leather and BDSM oriented community events.  I expect my boy to demonstrate respect and to represent us well at all events I allow him to attend.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy will practice leather care in his role as my bootblack.  I expect him to be learning and practicing to ensure proper care of all of our leather household gear.

    Learning Goals:

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] We will each be learning new BDSM techniques to further our growth and development.  This will include books, videos and hands-on training classes and seminars.  I expect my boy to regularly share his  learnings, findings and experiences.

    Health & Fitness Goals:

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 22-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will develop a physique that is pleasing to me and that aligns with an athletic and muscular build with a targeted body fat percentage of 10-15%, a chest measure of 40”, bicep measures of 14”, a shoulder measure of 46” and thigh measures of 24”.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will develop and maintain a rock solid core with a chiseled and visible set of abs that’s pleasing to me.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will develop and maintain excellent cardiovascular health and endurance so that he performs well for all of my required training.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will track and maintain our fitness progress through body measurements and regular performance tracking and make this info available for greater accountability.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] My boy s37 will be held responsible for delivering measurable progress towards his health & fitness goals as well as towards mine.  I expect my boy to assist me in whatever ways necessary to ensure we are both delivering measurable results that satisfy me.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] I will build a more muscular physique and eat a balanced diet to maintain good health and physical form. A measurable goal of a 35 in waist, a 38″ belly and a targeted body fat percentage of 20%.

    Community Goals:

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] I expect my boy to volunteer for one or more leather/BDSM organizations as a means to give back to the community.

    [Approved by Sir Zuegi 6-Dec-2024] I expect my boy to maintain a public facing blog that supports writings around my goals for him, and other topics of interest that I assign and approve for him.

    I would encourage anyone into BDSM to define goals and doing so collaboratively in a relationship makes a lot of sense.  You can add a D/s aspect by layering in protocols for goal approval, goal review and goal progress checks.  Set achievable goals, but also some that will push you and drive you towards growth. 

    The purpose of this blog is to showcase writings about goal progress and achievements throughout the year as required by Sir’s approved community goal for his boy.  Stay tuned for progress updates as well as info on goal progress and challenges as we progress through the year.

    Do you have goals as part of your BDSM dynamic?  If so, leave a comment below and share any recommendations you have on how to incorporate goals and manage to them as part of a kink dynamic.

  • Start of a New Year

    Start of a New Year

    “Your life is controlled by what you focus on.“

    In August of 2024, Sir Zeugi and His boy s37 sat down for what at the time seemed a very challenging conversation – “how do we incorporate BDSM into our relationship as a means to grow?”

    Neither Sir nor I were new to kink, and in fact we had both been into kink for most of our adult lives.  However, life got busy, we both treated it as a part-time endeavor,  and we let ourselves fall into a vanilla rut.  Easy to let happen, and we knew it was time to make some changes.

    Throughout the rest of 2024, we both sought new learning through books, blogs, podcasts and local leather and kink events.  Today, we are in route to establishing a full-time 24×7 Dom/sub dynamic based on BDSM and leathermen norms.  It has been quite a journey, and both of us are dedicated to expanding our relationship and furthering our experience through BDSM practices.

    In December of 2024, my Dom, Sir Zuegi, approved the creation of this blog as part of a goal setting ritual.  The goal He approved is:

    I expect my boy to maintain a public facing blog that supports writings around my goals for him, and other topics of interest that I assign and approve for him.

    And with that, this blog, Booted and Bound was sanctioned into existence.  Throughout 2025, it is my assigned mission to build and maintain this blog for Sir Zuegi, and you, our audience.  It is my intention to share our experience with building, implementing and growing a leathermen household.  My goal is to share our experience in the hopes that it can inspire or be used as a resource by others in the community.

    To learn about Sir Zuegi and boy s37, be sure to check out the blog about page.  Stay tuned for an upcoming post that will detail all of the goals that Sir Zuegi has approved for focus in 2025.  Until then, Happy New Year, and I look forward to engaging with all of you!

    Have topics you’d like to see discussed on this blog?  If so, be sure to leave a comment below.